Two Years of Repentance

by Nosferatu 22 Replies latest jw friends

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  Nosferatu

  This is a story about a (former) elder in my KH. This was the PO for many, many years. He used to always call me when I didn't turn in my FS report. I attended a funeral at the KH 4 years after I had left, and he greeted me with a 'hello', but just left it at that.

  Three years ago, his wife died of cancer. According to the rumors, he ended up with a worldly girlfriend for a brief time. He ended up getting DFed. He returned to the KH to repent which of course meant sitting in the back and having nobody talk to you. He did that for two years and never got reinstated. He has apparently ceased going to the KH now.

  I feel bad for him and tried to see if him or his son were on FB. Nothing. The latest rumor was that his son (who is a baptized brother) showed up at the KH without a tie on. Perhaps he's doubting now as well???
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  designs

  Sitting in the back row being shunned must have been an eye opener. It also sounds like a little political payback since he went two years without being reinstated, that's severe.

  The new life starts in many strange ways.
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  AndDontCallMeShirley

  The WT's policies are nothing but absolute absurdity. Any elder will tell you, and WT puts it in print, that Jehovah forgives immediately and does not hold a grudge. This begs the question: why then does WT NOT forgive immediately and definitely holds a grudge? Apparently, WT has a higher standard than god's ( note: I no longer believe in Biblical nonsense---I'm just stating WT's policies as they contrast with the Bible).

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  WT is the only religion (read: cult) that believes the more they dehumanize, abuse, and strip an individual of their dignity, the more that person will want to be a part of the group. As in the case of this elder, the opposite is what occurred. Good for him.

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  For two years this man showed he wanted to be a part of the cong. by suffering indignity while elders played their little game, and ultimately rejected him. Meanwhile, JWs are wasting 1.7 BILLION hours a year, thousands of hours per baptism, to gain one baptism, while the same number (or more) of JWs are walking out the KH door with barely a nod or a care from the Org. What a monumental waste of effort !
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  new hope and happiness

  I remember a disfellowshipped guy who came to the K.H, i spoke to him and the elders took me aside and made the telling comment " They were dealing with it"

  A newly baptised kid disfellowhipped for smoking. He smoked before his conversion. I had the impression they simply didnt want him in the congregation.
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  quellycatface

  I genuinely feel sorry for this human being. He must be suffering from"Stockholm syndrome", when kidnapped people have affinity with their captors.

  I hope someone can help him, somehow.
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  quellycatface

  I meant must have been, in past tense.2 years is silly.and the witnesses say confession is wrong??
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  designs

  I remember a DF'd guy who was coming to the KH. around 1995, and the BOE didn't want him reinstated. It took several years. I would say hi to him and pat him on the shoulder in passing. I couldn't stand the way he was being treated. The BOEs big thing was that this guy was single and around 50 so he was suppose to be a threat to the sisters. We both left about the same time, 2000, he was reinstated but only stayed in for about two years.
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  gingerbread

  I've seen this happen a number of times over the last 40 years. "Elders" - by the way are human too - get disfellowshipped / reproved every month of the year. If the circumstances around the disfellowshipping were very public, those guys get the axe and the door slammed in their face.

  A really good guy in a local congregation was married to a girl for twenty years when it came out that she was getting it on with an elder in the congregation. This elder and this guy were 'best friends' - the elder and his wife would vacation with this other couple. Everything hit the fan right before the elder was set to give the Memorial talk. He was DF'ed quick!

  After the divorces, the two married and were reinstated within three years. They did this by playing by the rules - making all the meetings, underlining with highlighters and quarterly reinstatement requests.

  If you play the game, you will get reinstated. If you don't, they'll give you the silent treatment and hope you go away.
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  StephaneLaliberte

  Meanwhile, JWs are wasting 1.7 BILLION hours a year , thousands of hours per baptism, to gain one baptism, while the same number (or more) of JWs are walking out the KH door with barely a nod or a care from the Org. What a monumental waste of effort hat is soo true

  That is so true!

  I know of a guy that is still going to the meetings on and off for about the last 5 years... still not re-instated.
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  designs

  5 years has to be some kind of record. I knew a guy, very popular, who was setting a record for being DF'd, 5 times, had an out of control libido, but the BOE liked him and kept reinstating him.