Thanks everyone for your replies and PM's I will get to replying soon!!
for band on the run: first...Margaret Mead...wow, she definately does have the reputation...I know people are re-evaluating her work and say some negative things now about her possible "exaggerations or liberties", but she is still an amazing researcher & writer! secondly...Haha, people have hinted that perhaps I should pit one school against the other to see what happens...
VCU only gave the the offer when I informed them of EIU's...I do have to email EIU to let them know I need an extension on replying because I will fly down to Richmond to see the VCU campus...I am horrible at asking for more so I probably will let it go from there and see what happens. EIU is a vigourously competative program, they interviewed 20 people and they only let in 10 per year- so I know there are many clammoring for my position- so I doubt that EIU will offer more (and I am not expecting that).
I know what you mean about following the rules...it is TOTALLY ingrained in me too- although I have been more aggressive than I ever have been asking for things that I want in the last year or so...I'm learning by watching how the worldlies do it!