http://church-discipline.blogspot.com/2008/01/marian-guinn-vs-church-of-christ.html
LiasObessa brought this site to our attention on another related topic. As I began to read I found that the information was excellent and extensive. It is a place to study and learn:
"This is a blog for people interested in church discipline with a focus on
the mechanics and the practical impact, not the theology. It is to serve the
community of people who are subject to church discipline or recovering from it,
so the discussions here view discipline from a member's not from a pastor's
perspective."
"Once a withdraw has
occurred the first amendment protections don't belong to the church, rather they
belong to the individual. All religious activity in the United States is
consensual, a person who publically claims not to be a member of a church is
legally not a member of that church and church discipline cannot continue
without consent. A church attempting to discipline a person that has withdrawn
can be found to be engaging in a form of harassment.
http://church-discipline.blogspot.com/2007/08/how-to-leave-church.html
Here is a sort summary on what to include in a letter of Disassociation:
Since I have voluntarily resigned from the organization, and are therefore no longer a Jehovah's Witness, I expressly prohibit you from disfellowshipping me or in any way defaming my character before others. If I am disfellowshipped or am slandered in any way, I will have to take legal action against you.
Or
I have prayerfully considered the vow I made. Jesus said "My yoke is light." I am casting off the burden I have been under for so many years while under the scrutiny of the man made organization, the Watchtower Bible and Tract Society. In full faculty I am stating that I am disassociating from that organization. I no longer want to be recognized as a Jehovah's Witness because it does not fill the expectations I was led to believe.
(1) I do not want my family to be contacted or coerced in any way. (2) At my death I do not wish to be remembered as a Jehovah's Witness. (3) There is no need for prayers or further attempt to reverse my decision. (4) When the Congregation makes an announcement it should be an announcement of disassociation not apostasy
There is a lot more to read about church Discipline and a DA including how the law protects you.