Black sheep of the family-my life as an ExJW (page 2)

snowbird

Welcome.

Your Christian light shines through every sentence.

You will make an excellent teacher.

Blessings.

Sylvia

cult classic

What loving families we all have Hang in there.

Welcome to a very accepting group of folks.

clarity

bsand20 .....awesome intoductory post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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As one of our Newbies on here we are soooooo proud of

what you have come thru & survived brilliantly! Congratulations.

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Every one of those 'stuffed shirts' has lost a wonderful human being, so

welcome to this site that has seen absolute tragedy & amazing triumphs!

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"No more texting, no more phone calls, no more lunches, no more visits, no more calling for help with recipes, nothing. I'm guessing it had something to do with the recent convention of 2013 where the topic of disfellowhipped people came up."

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Yes it most likely was!

Put your mind & efforts toward your husband & children,

they grow up so fast.

There is no rush........armageddon is not coming.....deal with your

relatives some other time .......

All the best bsand20.

clarity

rebel8

Good for you for turning your life around and not returning.

jamiebowers

Do whatever you have to do to let go of your anger, whether that be counseling or just posting here on JWN. Hopefully you are NOT allowing your mother access to your kids now that she's shunning you. Let her live with her decision.

problemaddict

Wow.....just wow.

Thank you for sharing that and welcome. Many of us know how you feel to varying degrees. I am not DF'd, but i am currently being shunned by some, and embraced by others. It all depends on the person. My JW mother has basically stopped talking to me, although if I press the matter she is kind. She is also pretty old.

I will never understand a situation like yours. Technically, in fact VERY TECHNICALLY, your situation should be treated differently. You were 15 when you were disfellowshipped. You were baptized too early. if you were never baptized, none of this would be an issue. All of the decisions we make when we are 13 of course we should have to wear on our sleve as husbands fathers mothers and wives for the rest of our lives apparently.

I went to a fneral for a friends stepdad. He was the first live donor to donor liver transplant done without blood in the world. Here in CA. His brother was the donor. His brother was baptized when he was 13, because his older brother was doing it. The one that now when they were in their 50's, needed a liver. He was still disfellowshipped, but the brothers allowed this. His brother allowed it. They had press conferrences. All was good. The donating brother had a harder time recovering than the recipient.

Fast forward to his funeral. Some people at the funeral offered condolances, but many more avoided him. Only one man came to the wake at the home of the deceased wifes house (we were there and so was her daughter), because he was disfellowshipped.......at the age of 17.......35 years previously!!!

How insane is that!

Pity them, shame them, and be frank. You are not the fornicating 15 year old. It should be brought to their attention, what kind of sadistic treatment that is, and how unloving and silly it is considering especially your unique circumstances.

P.S. - PM me. I am from Orange County originally. If you were in Whittier, we may know each other. Or don't PM me if that freaks you out.

problemaddict

Also....one of the worst thing that could be done was that silly comment your elder uncle made. Essentially telling you that you are killing your children. What a reidiculous thing to tell someone!

Don't let her see her grandchildren if she shuns you. Your children wouldn't want to spend time with someon that treats their mother like that. I don't anticipate her sticking to her guns.

Just tell her point blank, I don't believe it, I should never have been baptized at 13, and am being shunned because of a technicality. Who was into technicalities....Jesus......or the Pharisees? Well technically my kids and I are a package deal. :)

JWdaughter

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm glad you have your own family and can teach them better. wondering how your mom relates to your kids and husband now.

ruderedhead

You have quite a story! Wow! You must be a very understanding, loving, kind woman! And a true Christian, unlike most of your family.

I'm sorry that your Mom has done this to you, probably under pressure form the elder. But perhaps you should turn the tables on them, send a note and tell her that although you love her, you agree that you need to end unnecessary communication as you don't want your precious children exposed to such a vindictive cult and its members or their false teachings. You prefer that they associate with real Christians, who follow Christ. And if she ever decides to exit the cult, you will accept her with open arms. Please let her know your door is always open.

Continue to enjoy your life and your freedom! All the best to you!

LisaRose

Welcome, thanks for sharing your painful story. It's too sad, a mother rejecting a child because she chooses a different religion. It's a destructive cult, that is the only explanation. It's like someone with the bubonic plague saying they can't be nice to you unless you get sick and get the plague too. People who have never experienced this don't get why it it so hard to leave, It's because it's insidious, they try and control every aspect of your life and if you don't go along, you are nothing. Some try to fight, but they just keep laying on the guilt.

It's disgusting.

Black sheep of the family-my life as an ExJW

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