Need advice for asking a girl out (page 4)

TD

I asked her after school and she said no. Well not in those words. She said "awwww" a lot then "idk" then I said it's alright if she says no then she said we can still be friends and we'll still go to prom and I got a hug. Her saying no wasn't as bad as I thought it would be tbh. Im still glad I did it because I don't have to worry about her not liking me anymore since ik for sure.

Good on you for asking. Next time, do not facilitate the rejection.

If she wants to be friends in the platonic sense, then by all means, be her friend.

But do not confuse, "Friend zone" with "Friendship." They aren't synonyms.

Get back in the saddle and ask someone else to the prom.

Great job. At least you tried. Wasn't so bad after all, was it? Maybe one of her friends has her eye on you.... Just be open to opportunity, don't disqualify yourself before the race has started. You have the rest of your life ahead of you.

DuvanMuvan

I only said it was ok of she said no because I didn't want her to feel guilty about saying no and I felt a bit weird just standing there waiting for her to answer when it looked like she didn't want to

i do feel pretty relived knowing that I don't have to take any of the "you guys should be a couple" stuff seriously anymore

Quarterback

Your a good man, Duvan.

You had the courage to ask, and to face the results with a positive reaction. Good for you.

TD

I only said it was ok of she said no because I didn't want her to feel guilty about saying no

I understand exactly why you did it. Don't do it again.

Socially, you are the one who took the risk here. You are the one who opened himself up to the sting of a rejection.

Trying to preemptively absolve the young lady of guilt absolutely screams, "Your feelings are much more important than mine!"

You might think that's the "Nice" and/or "Noble" thing to do. You might even think that young ladies respect that.

Wrong, wrong wrong. That is perceived as weakness and low self-worth.

I know this is hard for a young man to understand and I wish I was better at explaining it.

snowbird

If she's going to the prom with you, she likes you.

Don't pressure her.

Don't apologize to her for liking her.

Don't pay any attention to her giggly friends.

Do continue to be friendly and attentive.

Do let her see the kind of man you are becoming.

Do keep in mind that you're both young and have a lot of growing to do.

Blessings to the both of you.

Sylvia

jgnat

It is great that you applied your courage and it will be easier next time. I bet you feel a lot better, as I predicted!

ABibleStudent

Congratulations on overcoming your fear DuvanMuvan! Remember how relieved you felt after asking that girl instead of continuing to worry about whether that girl liked you. Now what other girls do you like? Go ask them out.

Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

Robert

redvip2000

And besides, you need to get used to/learn to accept rejection. It happens. You will be ok...

This in reality is the key. Believe it or not, guys who do better with girls are the ones who don't give a rats ass about being rejected. Get used to it is great advice. The worse is when you are extremely careful about asking a girl out, you wait , wait , wait untill you think it's the perfect time and everything seems right to ask, then you ask you get rejected. That's terrible.

ASK. If she says no, so what?? that are tons of girls out there, go ask another one.

Band on the Run

My hope is that you will ask her out even if it is scary. Ultimately, it doesn't matter whether she says yes or no. The important thing is that you showed up which carries over to so much in life. When I have to do something that feels awkward or yucky, I pretend that I am someone else. It helps a bit. The important thing is that you do it. If she says no, there are other women out there. You have your cheer leaders here.

Need advice for asking a girl out

TD

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