The poison spreads further than I thought.

quellycatface

I made contact with a sister in one of my old congregations just after Christmas. She got married 10 years ago to a non-JW and has'nt been back to meetings etc.... Her family are still in the truth, apart from a DF'd sister, who is coming back to meetings.

I explained that I had DA'd early December, due to many reasons, ie; paedophile cover-ups, doctrine, hypocrisy etc etc......

She said she would keep in touch and we'd meet up in February when we would be visiting her area. I also asked for her DF'd sister to get in touch.

Guess what? Not a dicky bird.

I've seen on her Facebook page that she she still has some very active witness mates, she obviously wants to stay friendly with.

I feel like I've been hurt all over again by this stupid ass cult that ruins good friendships TOTALLY. WTF?????

sparrowdown

Hello quellycatface,

I know I am new here and my opinion don't count for much. But it seems apparent to me who the "christian" is in this scenario.

You did the loving reasonable thing and extended a hand of friendship.

That's all anyone can do. Be proud of yourself for that.

Try not to let it get to you. Believe in yourself, that's the place to start.

Take care.

sparrowdown

The Searcher

Sometimes the indoctrination and fear is so great that people will instinctively sacrifice loved ones and friends, rather than offend their "gods" - the self-serving 'glorious ones' in the KH & at HQ!

Try and focus on the fact that THEY are the losers in all of this - not us! They've lost sincere friends, and are certainly no friends of God & Christ by blatantly and publicly rejecting Christ's command at John 13:35.

God help them all - they really are to be pitied for their blindness and subservience to their "idol", the GB!

KateWild

Your friend has't cut the chord after so many years being physically out she is still mentally in. My first 7 yras of marriage I was physically out but mentally still in, I came back with full force and zeal.

Try and be patient with your friend, we are all at different stages of waking up. She may be riddled with guilt that she is a bad erson, try not to take is too personally and commend her plenty on FB, then perhaps she will want to reconnect soon.

Kate xx

quellycatface

But she's been Inactive for 10yrs!!!no meetings, FS, nothing.

I am gobsmacked the WT still have a hold on people like this.

quellycatface

Sparrowdown, you're opinion is important.That's why we are all here.Thank you.

losingit

I had a very similar situation happen to me. I was friends with ayoung woman who.had never been baptized but came to meetings off and on. (Her mom and sis are jws. And her sis married into a large family of jws.) Well, she got pregnant and got married-- and neither of them are jws although they both studied together. That stopped when the husband realized he couldn't keep up with all the rules.

Many often made fun of her and insulted her behind her back. I defended her at every turn bc I thought she was awesome! We talked after the meetings, I visited her at her home, she came to a girls night party I had. In other words-- we were FRIENDS!

So oneevening after being df'd and feeling very depressed I contacted her and we talked. She didn't know I was df'd but I told her in the conversation. We talked for a long time. She told me that she loved me for me. I was unfriendedon FB shortly afterwards. That's how powerful mind control is!

wasblind

Good advice always count Sparrow Down regaurdless of your post count

wasblind

Quelly and Losinit

All of my " Overnight friends " from the hall are now gone

not a part of my life at all. Thank goodness

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Ding

It's often easier to get a person out of the Watchtower than it is to get the Watchtower out of them.

The poison spreads further than I thought.

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