When a JW relative came to visit . . . . (page 2)

ABibleStudent

Hi skeeter1, Have you thought about leaving a copy of Raymond Franz's books (i.e., "Crisis of Conscience" and "In Search of Christian Freedom") or Don Cameron's book (i.e., "Captive of a Concept") in the guest bedroom? I am willing to wage that those JW relatives will never bother you again.

Another option would be to invite someone else to stay in your guest bedroom for a week or convert your guest bedroom into an office, so that the JWs would have to stay in a local hotel. Your guest bedroom might be too attractive and comfortable for them to stay in a local hotel.

Peace be with you, and everyone, who you love,

Robert

jamiebowers

I'm just so tired. It was not an enjoyable visit. I was constantly put on edge, insulted,my JW guests made references constantly to materialism, and selfishness . . especially the last day when they were not trying to make leading conversation to preach the Good News. I think this last day was pure judgemental becuase we have a nice home. Whatever. I didn't bother to counter. I just counted down the hours til they left.

That would've been about the time to point out that they seem to enjoy the fruits of your materialism by staying in your nice home. You should reccomend a nice campground if there is another request to visit.

Quendi

Skeeter, your experience just makes me glad that I am disfellowshipped as I will never be subject to that kind of verbal assault. When I was a Witness and visited my non-Witness relatives, I seldom if ever brought up religion. Instead, I talked about my life and adventures in Colorado, what the rest of the family was doing, enjoying meals and sightseeing with them and other things that made for a very pleasant time. I think that had a lot to do with the reception I received when I had to move back to Birmingham, Alabama for some months in 2012 to recover from the economic recession as well as take care of my aged mother. My kinfolk were very happy to see me and treated me as the long-separated brother, cousin, nephew and uncle I was. Furthermore, they were very happy to learn that I had left the religion and had no intention of ever returning. The looks on their faces said, "High time!" even when they were too polite and tactful to say that out loud. Since my return to Colorado, I have maintained close ties with my family and am all the better for it. None of this would be possible if I were still a cult member.

Quendi

Scully

I agree with jamiebowers - if they don't like how Materialistic™ you are, they may prefer the accommodations at the Super 8 motel instead. That would shut them up, and fast. Because despite how Materialistic™ you are, and how much they enjoy the fruit of your labour (even though they must protest about it), the fact is they are too cheap to loosen the purse strings on their buttholes and pay for accommodations anywhere else. In fact, they'd rather mooch off you and complain about how you're living the high life, than put their money where their mouth is and vacation in a fleabag motel that they can't really afford.

Oh and while I'm on the topic, when they complain about how Materialistic™ you are, you can always counter with something like "Yeah, that's what happens when you get an education. It sucks, but we seem to be handling it well." /sarcasm

OUTLAW

I also said that it was rude to disregard my beliefs and make the first several days fo their visit as a JW campaign to recruit me. I admitted that I was insulted.

The JW apologizes . . . then continues to preach the Bible, read the Bible, etc. for the next 36 hours!!!!!!!!!

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Scully

One more thing, as irritating as it must have been to listen to JW claptrap for the better part of 4 days, consider this: many JWs are so sheltered and uneducated and poorly informed about the goings on in the world, that they seriously do not have anything else to talk about.

Perhaps they deserve some pity. Not much, but some.

DuvanMuvan

" One more thing, as irritating as it must have been to listen to JW claptrap for the better part of 4 days, consider this: many JWs are so sheltered and uneducated and poorly informed about the goings on in the world, that they seriously do not have anything else to talk about."

So true.

It could also be that for some, they don't realise the difference between witnessing and talking like a normal human being. Because they're told not to associate with "worldy people" they cant make the distinction and for them they feel like they're just making small talk.

zebagain

skeeter1; your thread touched me. It sounds like standard witness speak.

Have you met up with b & s you havent seen for a long time? What is the first thing that comes to mind? They said they would keep in touch with you and have not. Whats the first thing you notice. They havent changed the conversation is the same almost to the word. They will do a rundown on their kids and whoever and whatever the are doing and approved people will be described as "very spiritual". Check you dictionary for "spiritual": they mean obedient/never miss a meeting/ say the right words/ wear the right clothes.

Scully" Has just said it true. JW are so "sheltered and un-educated and poorly informed about the goings on in the world that they seriously do not have anything else to talk about."

skeeter1

Thank you everyone. I do think that a big part of this is that the JWs are sheltered people who have surrounded themselves with JWs and JW speak. They can't relate to people any other way, then the Witness speak.

It has taken me the weekend to calm down. Today, we went over for a party at our friends' house as I said before. It was so nice and laid back. I am beginning to relax. A wine cooler helped out, alot. But, I am wiped out and am going to take an afternoon nap now.

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