by kneehighmiah 30 Replies latest jw friends
She said to "go hang yourself"??? What a lovely Christian person the WT are making of her.
Knickers to her.
Time to get the hell out of Dodge my boy.
Good advice here.
Sorry for your troubles. And remember there's lots of lovely ladies out there and great new friends.
Love Quelly xx
Moving is a good idea -- new places, new friends, new sights. Make a plan, check out some places, think about where you might get a job, and then GO!
Moving is a great idea but I have a word of caution on the fade. I moved and attended for 6 months and faded. BIG mistake. People knew us and liked us and HOUNDED us for over a yr.
Move, attend immediately and request your card be transferred of the Secretary immediately. Do not give out your address (say you are moving again in 3 weeks and will give it then) Skip the next meeting. Go to the following one. Skip and then go for just long enough to confirm your card is there. Then don't go back!!!! Also, use an app on your smart phone to get a temporary phone number to give out when people ask for one. Then let it cancel when you are stopping.
Best of luck!
"she told me to go hang myself. Literally she said that, after accusing me of not being spiritual"
this is not the kind of person you wanna be with long-term buddy
Did you tell her, " That's some very loving advice and I will surely take it right after I hear on the news you were out playing in traffic."
Can't help my sense of humor it just shows up, but............................
RUN your fade as fast as you can. You were given some great ideas on here. Plan out the ones that work best for you. Plan for the worst, pray for the best, and live comfortaby right in the middle.
You can handle this. You will handle this and it will be on your on terms. Keep your mindset and common sense.
If they send a letter don't accept it. Mark "moved or not at this address" knowing in your heart and mind that you have moved on and the jw they are looking for no longer resides at that address.
Be well my friend
Finding out sooner rather than later is good.
She's brainwashed. I can't even believe it's her talking. I can tell it hurts her too. The only way for her to feel ok with the breakup is to paint me as evil in her mind. We hardly ever argued about anything else. Very loving towards each other and got along well. It's disgusting.
kneehighmiah: I can tell it hurts her too. The only way for her to feel ok with the breakup is to paint me as evil in her mind.
Of course it does, but she is under the control of the cult.
It causes her pain, but her way of reducing cognitive dissonance is to choose them over you.
Not everyone is strong enough to break free from an abusive relationship.
It appears most people choose to stay with the abuser.
Please dont fade... just stop going...
DO NOT USE RETIREMENT MONEY
You are ONE person ? You can rent a ROOM.
Put your precious "stuff" in storage.
Can you rent a room from a non jw relative ?
Don't endanger yourself financially. I do not know
how old you are, but retirement money is necessary.
When you sort yourself out, then figure this out gradually.
