LoisLane: Thank you for your kind words. Actually I registered and started posting here around 2006 (under the pseudonym of "Trojan") but I lost the email associated to that account and the password to this site. In the meantime I had left Bethel and my assignment and a bumby ride started (that of fading and trying to save my family). That ended with me DA'ed myself and losing my family in the process. Here we are :-) having this conversation.
Yes, Witnesses have used funerals as infomercials. I have seen relatives and friends (non-JW) go out of the meeting place in a disgusted kind of way. They can see the sham, anybody else in the room can't. It's a different perception.
I attended once the funeral for a Branch Committee member and they made a complete show out of the "event", treating him like a rock star and shamesly using the "opportunity" to recruit as many as possible of the attendees.
That is also something that I absolutely hated, since I was a child, EVERYTHING. E V E R Y occasion is a "opportunity to witness". There is no normal social interaction or human feelings for others. Got invited for a non-witness wedding? Go to witness, to count time. Have a job interview? Recruit you Sucker! I had one elder telling me to witness during a job interview (that I desperately needed at the time!).