Giordano, I have no problem with playing music and dancing. I'm not an old party-pooper. I love life; I love fun. It's not that they "played music and danced". It's just that I know who it was playing the music and dancing and what they and the religion are really like. It was corny JWs doing it. Seeing them dance around the Kingdom Hall like Pentecostals was odd and emabarassing to me. If you and cofty and Laika don't think seeing them dance around the KH was embarassing and corny and like Pentecostals, then we simply disagree.
Allow me to address the point you and cofty made about "blaming the victims" and "demonizing the rank and file". JWs have no problem blaming everybody outside their ranks for the fact they're supposedly soon going to be carrion for birds and manure ($hit) on the ground for fertilizer. Individual JWs and the org have for years self-righteously and judgementally scrutinized and analyzed every aspect of the lives of non-JWs and critiqued their entertainment, lifestyles, etc. You wouldn't believe some of the stuff I put up with. I can't relate specifics here because doing so would blow my cover.
I actually want to help JWs and care about them, but it seems to me that the majority are beyond help. As I've said, and I'll say it again, many (most?) are smug, unreasonable, self-righteous, ignorant, and outright stupid. I tried to reason with my own mother. Her responses were so ridiculously unreasonable and stupid, that my wife, who was watching and listening, literally laughed. She is so ignorant of the Bible - its contents, background, etc. - that it makes me mad at her. She's even ignorant of JW theology and the history of JWs and goings-on in JWdom. Yet she sits in judgement of the whole non-JW world and has the gall to go door-to-door to "teach" people in her state of ignorance.
Many JWs love the glory and attention that the org provides them and that they couldn't get elsewhere; they love being recongized as pioneers, giving talks, etc. Most are not just innocent victims as you seem to think.