jgnat - don't waste your fingers typing why she shouldn't do it - for whatever reason Kate has decided to do this - she has some pretty good rationalisations as to why she is doing it, which don't allow you, or Kate, to understand the true reasons. I spent an hour pointing out all the reasons why she shouldn't do it but she clearly had made up her mind so I was wasting my breath. This makes no sense to me and worries me - I don't think it will end well - but she has to work it out for herself - she won't be told.
Kate - I hope you had a good break and have come back relaxed and full of beans. It was very nice to meet you (and to catch up with the very likeable Laika) before you went away albeit slightly frustrating in that I could tell I was having no traction whatsoever in trying to persuade you not to go to meetings (mind you I am used to not being listened to). So for the record I am throwing in the towel. Take care and look after yourself in the land of conditional love. Fraz