This is classic damned if you do, damned if you dont.
The choice is
1. Be a hypocrite
2. Be an apostate.
I just came to the realization that those of us still in and who know TTATT have only 2Choices. We can choose to be hypocrites, and be phony around everyone we know and love, those who should be closest to us, our spouses, parents, children etc.. Never revealing how we truly feel and forced to bite our tounge and keep what we truly feel bottled up inside. The minute we reveal how we truly feel with love and honesty, we become the dirtiest thing alive to a JW; a loathed and feared apostate. Better for us to be a serial killer rapist, because at least they can repent and return to Jehovah. Apostates have sinned against the holy spirit.
We can either be a hypocrite, not being ourselves around others, or we can become worse than dead to our families.. What a hostage situation they have devised! What a terrible corner they have backed many good people into.