Elders are always trying to lighten the load off of the congregation, by dropping those physically and mentally "weak".
Telephone Conversations Today with 2 Elders Re: Shunning - Or Not?
by abbasgreta 25 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
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tenyearsafter
I am going through this myself...and I do have to say, the double standard is mind blowing! Not one of my JW relatives nor my mother's JW friends or fellow JW's would even acknowledge my presence in the past, but now that Mom needs care, they fall all over themselves to pass the financial and care burden to me. All of a sudden, I am getting phone calls and warm, friendly greetings when I see to her needs, and one of them comes by for a brief visit it's all smiles. I would not shrug my responsibility to my mother, and to her credit, she never shunned me...but I am floored at the abrupt 180 these "friends" do when they see an opportunity to shift any congregational responsibility to a "filthy DF'ed one"...hypocrisy at its finest!
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Blackbird Fly
its SUCH a cult.
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abbasgreta
Update: Spoke to my mother on the phone and asked whether she was willing to 'waive' the shunning so I could help. She was very moved and agreed.
I was there within 30 minutes. She is weak and very thin from not eating properly, started to sob, stood up as best she could, took me in her arms and kept saying
'Oh my daughter'. It is obvious that the forced separation from me and her two grandchildren is that what is actually killing her.
I spent 8 hours with her, she actually said she cannot be hardhearted and (her illness may be a convenient stepping stone for her) our relationship
is completely back on track! She ate a couple of meals with me, we chatted and reminisced - my brother could not believe the difference in her.
I'm going back for the day on Friday, taking my daughters with me, and hubby is fixing her tv/freeview (needs new cable - so she can get German
programmes). I gently mentioned little snippets about the wt - I really fought against saying too much - that I had moved on faith-wise etc
and everything stayed calm and, well, loving. Let her illness be an excuse - she doesn't care, I don't care. She has her family back and I have my
mum back. So up-yours watchtower! (Couldn't help that.)
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PaintedToeNail
abbas-How very moving! I'm so glad you have you mum back and that your family is reunited again. Wonderful news!
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joe134cd
I have read experiences of disfellowshiped ones who the first time they found out that a close love one had died was when they read about it in the paper. So the elder really doesn't understand his own BS when he talks about someone who never saw a dieing family member.