Hi Nosferatu,
Were you young(ish) when he talked with your mom about you?
There are a lot of elders (well some, maybe a lot is a big word for it) that basically think young people are trouble. Maybe you got put in that category by him.
Men like that are going to still feel that way even when they are not elders.
Just because someone leaves "the truth" doesnt automatically make them a better person.
You did a nice thing, you reached out, now you can let him go his own way.