by cognac 17 Replies latest jw friends
When you are an LGBT it truly must take a weight off to open up and explain who you truly are.
Although it likely is very difficult for your family to understand, your sexual orientation is your business and noone elses.
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LOL.....I thought she was a married woman talking about being pissed for not telling her Mother her and the kids celebrated Halloween. I think that's what she is done hiding who she is from family. LOL
It's a hard thing to tell those you are close to that you have rejected their beliefs. My elder brother just friended me on Facebook. While I was happy about it, I wondered whether to post pictures of me in my Halloween costume. I decided to post what I want, if he unfriends me, then so be it, I won't live a lie.
Once one has been indoctrinated by a cult over many , many years it should be no surprise that it can take many more years to be completely free of the influence it has had on you for so long .
If anybody shuns you or gives you the cold shoulder , turn it around , and say/think , I dont want to know you , your not worthy of my freindship or acquaintance . Good riddance .
smiddy
Hey cognac: how's it going?
Just remember you are an adult now, you really don't owe your mom any explanation. Just because you didnt volunteer information, doesnt make you a coward or liar.
I understand how frustrating it can be.
There are things I just dont discuss with my mom out of respect for her feelings.
I live my life my way, but dont rub it in her face.
Just make sure to count the cost before you burn any bridges.
Just my 2 cents.
Miss.Fit
cognac,
Well done I admire your courage and openess. Many get so used to keeping their cards close to their chest and being in a distant relationship with their loved ones. I am an all or nothing kind of girl, my daughter likes to keep things discreet. Each person is different and needs to be as open as they need to be. Go for it, you will feel less trapped if you always open up. I know I do.
Sometimes I tell my kids things that get used against me by my ex, but I would still rather have an open relationship with them. But that is why my daughter is cautious.
Kate xx
RubaDub, cognac is not a lesbian..............................she is married with young kids and her husband ratted her out to the elders. Kate xx
Kate: I have always admired that about you. You do not hesitate to speak out. I enjoy your posts because they are balanced and thoughtful.
My wife found freedom in telling her parents about halloween and trick/treating with my son, yes it complicates an already difficult sitution, but in the end being honest is freeing.
We were DF'd because of the halloween decorations after fading for 4 years. I will echo the sentiment that you can be DF'd for anything two elders agree on.
