The Problems People have in finding Love....

by fulltimestudent 12 Replies latest jw friends

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  DJS

  FTS,

  I'm straight. My poison of choice is female, but I can see why you would think otherwise. I have spent most of my time on this site supporting gays and lesbians; if someone would have asked me 1 1/2 years ago what I would spend my time on this site doing, I would have never guessed that it primarily would be in support of gays and lesbians. But it is a noble cause.

  If I liked boys I would be very proud of it. I like girls. Hot girls. Beautiful girls. Smart girls! I've had a lot of fun in the process (and wouldn't change a lot of things), but relationship longevity and I aren't acquaintences.
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  fulltimestudent

  OK, I understand and that's cool. We fight the same fight.

  I was going to use your comment to make a point.

  I think it can be argued that previous lack of social acceptance and the harassing of gay people by police made it difficult for them to build social communities, in which you could find long-term partners. As I understand the social data, fifty years ago, very few gay males lived together in long term relationships because it was difficult to stay under the social and legal radar.

  Also, the social mores were against them. An opposite sex attracted boy could (at that time) talk openly at school (even family), a gay boy would not have been able to do that.

  A straight boy may have a few fumbles with a girl. Unlikely a gay boy would have done that.

  For the gay boy, it was more likely that his first sexual experience would have been a furtive one at some gay beat, always in fear of the police. After a few years of that experience the hunt for sexual partners would have been ingrained.

  To sum it. The straight kid grows up in a society that expects that he will one day find sex, and hopefully love. The gay kid doesnt. Little wonder they now want their relationships valued.
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  fulltimestudent

  A straight boy may have a few fumbles with a girl. Unlikely a gay boy would have done that.

  Sometimes, in my haste, I write something stupid. Those two sentences prove it. Of course, a young gay man could have a fumble with a girl (some of them even marry girls), but not as a result of their own natural attraction.

  What I wanted to say, was that there is a certain social expectation that a young man (understood as heterosexual) will have some sexual experimentation with a willing girl, but I wanted to juxtapose that with the situation of young homosexual man. There would be no societal toleration of his sexual experimentation with another boy.

  That (in the past at any rate) likely made it difficult to gain some experience in who appealed to them and who did not.