Sexually repressed and frustrated Jws....

by stuckinarut2 15 Replies latest jw friends

  • Wonderment
    Wonderment

    Sexual frustration? Me? Heck yes!

    Believe it or not, I was a sexual male virgin when I married at 20 years of age (Yes, because fear of Watchtower org, more than to God). To top it off, I felt, with my little experience gained in marriage, I found my wife was little or not sexually responsive enough to touch. I was so frustrated, I thought either that I sucked in the bed department, or that Jehovah was not fair in the administration of sexual hormones so that I, as a male, had plenty of sexual desire and feeling, but had an insensitive wife in sex. I suffered a lot.

    Then I abandoned the WT organization, and one of the first things I did after divorce, was try sex with a different partner. Wow! What a difference! This woman was so sensitive to everything I tried with her that many a times, she had me beat. I could not believe this!

    I asked myself, is this just a coincidence, or what? So I had to try again, and guess what, I was in bliss sexually speaking with my third partner. Boy, I tried just about everything "worldly" couples did in the bedroom, and it was sex like in the movies...sweaty, raw, capable of repetition, etc., ... so different to my JW wife who was perhaps "frigid" to a point. WT religion had to do with this for sure. Let me explain briefly:

    My first partner (a JW) was not sensitive per se, but not totally frigid. She had no response to manual touch in her breasts (I have soft hands and feel I have a good technique.). Touching her all over her body didn't do much to arouse her. Penetration didn't help much either (Hey guys, I am normal). The only time I noticed a sexual response from her was by oral sex, which she liked, but everytime she came close to a come, she pulled my head away, and quoted "the Watchtower" as authority for the "guilt" of pleasure she was getting from it. She would not let me finish her off. She was the only woman that I could not please fully, in part because she would not let me all the way, coupled with the fact, she obviously had low hormones, or some other physical problem.

    I put up with her for nearly two decades with this suffering. Since then, I have "sinned" by having sexual experiences with a good number of women. Sex with all the other women was remunerating, and fun, and produced visible results that brought back my manhood to a glorified state of content.

    If only I had some sex before marriage, I would not have stuck with my first cold sexual partner for so long. The WT Society is guilty for wrecking a lot of marriages. I speak from experience.

    I hope my experience helps someone out there. May God bless ya all!

  • stuckinarut2
    stuckinarut2

    I hear you wonderment....

    Thanks for your open comments....

  • bigmac
    bigmac

    hey wonderment--i'm a few years ahead of you on that same path.

  • eyeuse2badub
    eyeuse2badub

    Hey Stillin,

    "She said that she wasn't going to do the work of a prostitute."

    Kindly ask your 'christian' wife who lives by bible principles, "Honey, if you are not going to do the work of a prostitute, may I have a prostitute do the work of a wife?" (be gentle, it may be her first time)

    ---Render the marital due--do not be depriving each other except by MUTUAL CONSENT!just saying!

    eyeuse2badub

  • stillin
    stillin

    Used2be: she prefers the "deaden your body members" scripture to the one that you quoted.

    So sad...

  • Apognophos
    Apognophos

    It's not surprising if women in the org. have more sexual hang-ups than the men. Our society has a lopsided attitude towards the expression of sexuality by each gender. When was the last time you heard a guy called anything like "slutty" or "loose"? The religion just piles more guilt on top of that because any young couple that wants to date feels like it has half the adults in the congregation breathing down their neck, watching their every move. It's infantilizing and it nhibits sexual development (and I think it suppresses all ego development in general, which is part of what keeps JWs drone-like).

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