Conversation with a Seminary student over coffee . . .

by Terry 12 Replies latest jw friends

  • Terry
    Terry

    This is a distilled (and from memory) reconstruction of a chat awhile back. I’ve dusted it off for today.

    My 81 year old ex-Baptist minister friend Dub and I went to Starbucks for coffee and conversation. Dub likes to start conversations with strangers.

    Today a Seminary student caught his eye. They talked for about half an hour before Dub dropped me into it. Dub described me as an ex-cult member who had spent time in prison! This sucked me in when the student addressed me directly. His name was Jason and he was in his final year in Dallas Baptist Seminary.

    He: "Who or what is your idea of god?"

    Me: "At one time I could speak confidently that I KNEW within a moral certainty exactly who god was, his Name and his purpose. Now, I have to laugh at my idiotic and egotistical self-deception! Any god that I--a mortal creature--could describe and know would always be unworthy of worship and far removed from reality. You know why—because such a god would be more ME and my imagination. I'm ignorant. I don't and can't KNOW god. Anybody who tells me that they DO is somebody I view with caution. The way you'd treat a person who has been kidnapped and probed by aliens in a UFO."

    He: "For a guy with no beliefs you have very strong beliefs!"

    Me: "You and I don't use language the same way, I'm afraid. It makes communication accuracy almost impossible."

    He: "Why do you say that?"

    Me: "Because I live in a Post-Enlightenment world described by science with measurements and descriptions that are testable. You, as a Seminary student, are immersed in a Pre-Enlightenment world described by metaphor utterly elusive to testing except as an interpretation of an emotion."

    He: "So you are alone in the Universe without direction, then. Doesn't that frighten you?"

    Me: “I came through my mother's birth canal without a roadmap or a clue. Same as you, I suspect. On the one hand, Science had given us medicine, technology, space travel, triple-bypass surgery and antibiotics while religion has given us talking snakes and donkeys, fluttering angels and malevolent devils. Which is closer to reality and progress and health and well-being?"

    He: "But, we all die."

    Me: "Well said! The religious person does die. No better or worse than the infidel."

    He: "But, afterward the judgment!"

    Me: "Afterward, the funeral!

    Remember Jason, Muslims have the 42 virgins and Mormons have their own planet and Jehovah's Witnesses have a Paradise Earth according to belief--not according to reality. We can test a dead body for life. We can't test a belief; we can only assert it."

    He: "We have the promises of the bible."

    Me: "And the Koran and the Vedas, and the returning...returning...almost here....Jesus as well. I once had a friend who promised to split his Lottery winnings with me! You'll notice I did not drive up in a limousine!"

    He: "Those Jehovah Witnesses really did a number on you, didn't they?"

    Me: "I was the one who jumped in to the frying pan. I did it to myself."

    He: "Why?"

    Me: "Because I was a believer before I was a test-to-prover. I was a person of Faith rather than a person of due diligence. I wanted pie in the sky bye and bye rather than a life of three score and ten and then a cemetery plot. It is called gullibility and greed for more than there really is. I was a glutton who could stuff a tasty promise in my gut and ask for whipped cream!"

    He: "I've never heard anything like this before. You're a strange man. I don't mean to be insulting."

    Me: "I'm non-threatening and have no agenda to carry out. I won't be spreading any false doctrines to young college students or instructing others to put whim and willy-nilly ahead of a reasonable skeptical inquiry, that's for sure."

    He: "And how do you know for sure if you are right or not?"

    Me: "The easiest test there is. I look at my own life. We need to be able to spot a phony even if he is staring back at us from our mirror! When I was a bible thumping, door knocking Jehovah's Witness I never improved anybody's life for even five minutes. I just parroted what I was told. It was a job like cleaning the bathroom. I was so busy wallowing in all that "Truth" I forgot to be real. Telling somebody something that isn't true---even if it is beautiful--is a terrible and cruel attempt at making the world a better place. I'd rather mind my own business when it comes to certainty and absolutes."

    He: "Well....food for thought. I enjoyed talking with you. I have to go now."

    See the kind of day you can have with Dub as your traveling companion? He will chat anybody up.

    He'll excuse himself to go to the restroom and return an hour later having stopped to talk to some lady who was sitting reading a book!

    Today's coffee shop chat is not unusual. Dub had had a go at the fellow before dropping me into it.

    Afterward, Dub insisted that we were "meant" to go to that coffee shop that morning. God had sent us there to give that fellow something to think about.

    I smiled.

    Here I thought it was because my daughter had given me a gift certificate :)

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  • NewYork44M
    NewYork44M

    Great conversation. Thank you for sharing.

  • Terry
    Terry

    I'm not really a people person. Dub loves people.

    It is good to find your opposite in life and observe and learn from them.

    I think the worst decision we can make in life is to associate only with like-minded people.

    How do you grow?

  • NewYork44M
    NewYork44M

    What if this conversation changed the trajectory of this young man? And that trajectory was not good. Would you feel guilty?

    I don't want the burden of convincing that a person is wrong and then not providing a suitable plan B. That is a responsibility that I really can't deal with.

  • quincy_aka_quentin
    quincy_aka_quentin

    If that young man " changed the trajectory " of his life based on " a conversation" belive that would go a long way in making Terry's point valid.

    Besides, you would have to know Dub to realize how Terry got involved in the frist place.

  • Terry
    Terry

    I don't want the burden of convincing that a person is wrong and then not providing a suitable plan B. That is a responsibility that I really can't deal with.

    Then, unless we know all the answers to life we can never speak.

    I prefer to think of it this way: We each carry one or two puzzle pieces.

    We show them to others. They either pay attention or they don't.

    _____

    If you see enough pieces from enough different sources, you begin to get an idea of the BIG PICTURE.

    But, if we withhold the few pieces we have, and others do the same, we all wander in the wilderness chasing after whichever

    mirage looks like real water.

  • Phizzy
    Phizzy

    " If you see enough pieces from enough different sources, you begin to get an idea of the BIG PICTURE.

    But, if we withhold the few pieces we have, and others do the same, we all wander in the wilderness chasing after whichever

    mirage looks like real water."

    That is so true Terry, I have experienced exactly that process for myself over the years since I left the cult, I have read many books, and even more Posts and Threads on here, that have given me some of the "pieces", and led me to places that I can find more "pieces", you yourself have provided many, but I owe a huge debt to many Posters on here, past and present.

    I am quite heartened now when conclusions I have come to, because I have collected enough "pieces", are backed up by a Scholarly book or Post that I may read.

    We owe it to the Giants who have gone before us to pass on any "Pieces" we may have.

  • millie210
    millie210

    So Terry what is Dubs back story?

    What is his world view being 81 and an ex minister?

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