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by not interested 12 Replies latest jw friends

not interested

well here i am its about 3:30 in the morning and ive been sitting here and drinking beer and im feeling it i guess this is ultimatly why i was kicked out of the org. but im in denial that i have a problem with alchoacal maybe because i dont drink all the time maybe cuz i can drink without getting drunk but what is sad is that when im alone i just drink to get drunk cuz i hate being alone what the hell am i doing? im typing this out loud no wonder i was caught
not interested

ok once again i cant spell or type but if you refer to my post"to alll who have read my posts" I explained that i usualy post late at night and when iver been drinking so i have a excuse
Windchaser

(((not interested.))) I wish you were here and not alone. For some reason, I am not bothered too much or too often about my aloneness. The worst time recently that I felt alone was when my youngest son joined the Navy. That night (I had walked away from the borg and still had some nagging doubts about my leaving) I noticed that he had left a pack of cigarettes on the bar. It all hit me that I was truly alone, I was on my own. I started drinking and got pretty wasted. I lit up a cigarette. Started coughing. I hadn't smoked for years. It was the worst feeling I had had in a long time. The smoking enhanced my drunkeness, but I still felt like shit. What was I gonna do with my life now? The next morning I threw the pack away. I felt that I had no one in my life, that I was alienated from everyone.
As time went on, I started storing my son's things and taking control of my home and my life. I like my alone time now. It would be nice to have someone around to talk with...I guess that's why I come to the internet so much. I can share my feelings with you and you with me.
I have a big bottle of scotch here and probably one of these nights I will get ripped, but usually a glass will suffice to make me cheery and comfortable with my life.
Love ya...
Windchaser

not interested, one more thing. I have made some very good friends from posting on boards. I've even gone and met some of them. Just give it time, I know that you won't always feel this blue. Believe me, I know how much it hurts. ((((ni))))
Imbue

not interested: Please take a look at this site. I have to go out but I will be back later to make a comment. Your NOT alone...
http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/

A Newcomer Asks This is A.A. General Service Conference-approved literature
Copyright 1973, 1998 by A.A. World Services, Inc.
All Right Reserved

Am I an alcoholic?
If you repeatedly drink more than you intend or want to, if you get into trouble, or if you have memory lapses when you drink, you may be an alcoholic.
Only you can decide. No one in A.A. will tell you whether you are or not.

What can I do if I am worried about my drinking?Seek help. Alcoholics Anonymous can help.
What is Alcoholics Anonymous?We are a Fellowship of men and women who have lost the ability to control our drinking and have found ourselves in various kinds of trouble as a result of drinking. We attemptmost of us successfullyto create a satisfying way of life without alcohol. For this we find we need the help and support of other alcoholics in A.A.
If I go to an A.A. meeting, does that commit me to anything?No. A.A. does not keep membership files, or attendance records. You do not have to reveal anything about yourself. No one will bother you if you dont want to come back.
What happens if I meet people I know?They will be there for the same reason you are there. They will not disclose your identity to outsiders. At A.A. you retain as much anonymity as you wish. That is one of the reasons we call ourselves Alcoholics Anonymous.
What happens at an A.A. meeting?An A.A. meeting may take one of several forms, but at any meeting you will find alcoholics talking about what drinking did to their lives and personalities, what actions they took to help themselves, and how they are living their lives today.
How can this help me with my drinking problem?
We in A.A. know what it is like to be addicted to alcohol, and to be unable to keep promises made to others and ourselves that we will stop drinking. We are not professional therapists. Our only qualification for helping others to recover from alcoholism is that we have stopped drinking ourselves, but problem drinkers coming to us know that recovery is possible because they see people who have done it.

Why do A.A.s keep on going to meetings after they are cured?We in A.A. believe there is no such thing as a cure for alcoholism. We can never return to normal drinking, and our ability to stay away from alcohol depends on maintaining our physical, mental, and spiritual health. This we can achieve by going to meetings regularly and putting into practice what we learn there. In addition, we find it helps us to stay sober if we help other alcoholics.
How do I join A.A.?You are an A.A. member if and when you say so. The only requirement for A.A. membership is a desire to stop drinking, and many of us were not very wholehearted about that when we first approached A.A.

How much does A.A. membership cost?There are no dues or fees for A.A. membership. An A.A. group will usually have a collection during the meeting to cover expenses, such as rent, coffee, etc., and to this all members are free to contribute as much or as little as they wish.

Is A.A. a religious organization?No. Nor is it allied with any religious organization.

Theres a lot of talk about God, though, isnt there?The majority of A.A. members believe that we have found the solution to our drinking problem not through individual willpower, but through a power greater than ourselves. However, everyone defines this power as he or she wishes. Many people call it God, others think it is the A.A. group, still others dont believe in it at all. There is room in A.A. for people of all shades of belief and nonbelief.

Can I bring my family to an A.A. meeting?Family members or close friends are welcome at Open A.A. meetings. Discuss this with your local contact.

What advice do you give new members?In our experience, the people who recover in A.A. are those who:
(a) stay away from the first drink;
(b) attend A.A. meetings regularly;
(c) seek out the people in A.A. who have successfully stayed sober for some time;
(d) try to put into practice the A.A. program of recovery.

How can I contact A.A.?Look for Alcoholics Anonymous in your local telephone directory. These telephones are answered by A.A. volunteers who will be happy to answer your questions, or put you in touch with those who can. If there is no A.A. telephone service close to you, write or phone the A.A. General Service Office.

Here is a list of A.A. pamphlets which may be particularly helpful to you:Is There an Alcoholic in Your Life?
A.A. 44 Questions
Is A.A. for You?
Do You Think Youre Different?
A.A. for the Woman
Young People and A.A.
Too Young?

Remember that alcoholism is a progressive disease. Take it seriously, even if you feel you are only in the early stages of the illness. Alcoholism kills people. If you are an alcoholic, and if you continue to drink, in time you will get worse.

A LCOHOLICS A NONYMOUS is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism.
The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. There are no dues or fees for A.A. membership; we are self-supporting through our own contributions.
A.A. is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any causes.
Our primary purpose is to stay sober and help other alcoholics to achieve sobriety.
Copyright by The A.A. Grapevine, Inc.;
reprinted with permission
terafera

Not Interested,
I feel for you! Growing up, I was surrounded by many alcoholic family members, and I have found that many of them suffered from depression and loneliness. During hard times in my life, (depression, anxiety, boredom..) I turned to alchohol but it always made things worse. Alchohol is a natural depressant and although it might release your pain for awhile, always intensifies it later.
I think it's great advice to attend an AA meeting. I attended one with my friend, thinking I would get no good from it. I found that having many alchoholic family members, I have a high risk of suffering from it too. I also learned how to deal with stress and realized that many of the characteristics of alchohol abusers were ones that I've displayed before. It's not some strange cult ... it really helps. Its nice knowing there are others out there like you...
hannibal

Dude what am I, chopped liver?
I think you need a girl friend,thats normal.
not interested

thatnks for the replies every one and to Hannible no your not chopped liver your a good friend probably my best friend as you know when we go to happy hour after work i keep i t cool but when i go home it a different story i stop and by a 12 pack and i drink a 12 pack just because im bored maybe i should go to meetings again then id have somthing to do (yeah right) and your right i should get a normal girlfriend but im kinda thinking that "normal girlfriend is a oxymoron but we can discuss this at the bar tommorrow after work
not interested
Marilyn

I hate it that there are so many lonely people out there. Why not join a gym and exercise off some of your beer gut? Seriously, exercise makes you feel better about yourself and will cut into some of your alone time. Plus when you do come home you will be too tired to drink so much.
Also I presume you are young(ish)? why not do some travelling? That's the coolest way to meet people, girl type people, and it's interesting and enjoyable and expensive (I know) but young people should be traveling - coz later if you do meet someone, you won't have the money for it.
There is some medication on the market now to help you stop drinking. Did you know that?
thinking of you
Marilyn
scootergirl

There is some medication on the market now to help you stop drinking. Did you know that?

I am sorry..............I just find this amusing! Pills smills...........that isn't a solution.
NI, don't know why I read so far back, but I was thinking about you and wondering how you were doing. Guess maybe I just need one of those great bear hugs you give!

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