Suicide of a loved one is more painful than can be imagined. It is a traumatic and jarring experience that leads to emotional as well as physical and spiritual wrenching pain. It challenges our resiliency and our place in this world. Survivors may experience a variety of feelings such as detachment and estrangement from others, depression, anger, guilt, and questioning that may never be resolved.
As a survivor of losing a family member to sucide and having a few friends who decided to leave this world in that manner. I know the difficulties and sadness something like this brings. An at times it is very hard to make a positive out come .. come of it.
Look at the past ...when I was being raised up in the dub religion. I can see where a child, teen or adult would have feelings of severe sadness, depression and impulses of sucide (just to name a few of the disorders).
The whole atmosphere in the "Society" is very oppressive and the pressures they place on a human being is incredible. Many people feel they have to put on this mask and not be who they are.. or worse they have not sense of who they are by the masks they put on. They don't know who really they are anymore.. having lost their identity in the JW religion. You are not suppost to be "special" or count. Also when there is no one you can TRUST to keep your confidences, to help you and not kick you when you are down and struggling with your issues. You tend to keep more bottled up until it overwhelms you. AN that is no way to live. It is much more harder to live and conquer these issue than die. Death it is final... but the problem still remains un-resolved. An basically what ever had you to this point won. Because it was allowed to overwhelm you and take over your life.
JW's are so absorbed in their lives, how they present themselves as a family unit.. they don't want to see the serious issues.. they believe if ignored it will be handled by itself. IGNORE it and JEHOVAH will handle it. Jehovah helps those who not only helps themselves .. but we as brothers and sisters should be helping each other. NOT waiting in the shadows to destroy that person for our own self esteem and self worth. That is what happens w/ the eldership.. some low self esteemed person thinks he /she is going to make brownie points by gossiping or turning in the person who really needs help..to be shunned, mentally raped, inquisitioned and tortured emotionally. Until that person doesn't know his or her way out or up.
An that is not what should be allowed. If you ever have someone who is reaching out .. lend a hand or ear. Just listening can be a major help. Help that person get a good counselor. Watch for signs. Some people show withdrawal, anger and have made attempts before. But remember if that person still decides to kill him or herself even after you attempt to get him or her help. Then know that you tried your best.... believe me it will grieve you and you may blame yourself asking what more could you have done. But you did what you could and tried to get professional help for that person. It was their choice to reject it and continue on the path to thier death. Even though though these are extreme cases. There are still are people out there who could use a gentle friend to help them regain thier self, and come out of the dark place they find themselves in. Never give up hope. An don't be afraid to ask for HELP.
Xandria
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