HAS ANYONE BEEN THROUGH THIS?; MY MOTHER IS JW I WAS 15 YEARS OLD AT THE TIME MY MOM WOULD GO HOUSE TO HOUSE WITH THE WIFE OF THE BROTHER AND MY DAD WENT TO WORK SENSCE THE MORNING TO NIGHT THIS HAPPENED OVER THE SUMMER (BY THE WAY I NEVER WAS INTERESTED IN THIS RELIGION I THOUGHT IT WAS BORING AND I DIDNT ACCEPT ALOT OF THINGS THEY DID) WELL ANYWAYS BACK TO THAT SUMMER I WAS AT HOME ALONE MOM WITH THE SISTER ,DAD AT WORK AND THE HUSBAND OF THE SISTER HERNANDEZ WENT TO MY HOUSE TOLD ME HE WANTED TO READ ME THE BIBLE WE SAT DOWN ON A TABLE WE HAD OUTSIDE AND STARTED TO READ THE BIBLE AS HE READ HE PULLED OUT HIS PENIS TO ME I WAS IN SHOCK AND SCARED I RAN INSIDE THE HOUSE LOCKED EVERYDOOOR WHEN MY MOM GOT HOME I TOLD HER WHAT HAPPENED AND SHE CALLED ME A LIER YOU ACUSSER YOU HAVE THE DEVIL IN YOU THOSE WERE HER WORDS I TOLD MY DAD HE DID NOTHING SENSCE MY MOM WAS VERY CONTROLLING WITH HIM, THE NEXT SEVERAL DAYS HE WOULD CALL AND HARASS ME AND GO KNOCK ON ALL THE WINDOWS OF MY HOUSE WHEN MY MOM WAS WITH HIS WIFE, 5 YEARS LATER I GOT MARRIED AND MY HUBBY AND I STARTED TO STUDY WITH THEM THERE WAS A PART WHERE THE BROTHER SAID THAT IN THE JW THEY WER CLEAN AND PERFECT AND THAT NOBODY DID ANYTHING WRONG SO I BROUGHT UP THE PADST AND TOLD THEM MY STORY THE DID A LITTLE INVESTIGATION AND FOUND 5 OTHER GIRLS WHO BY NOW WERE NOW MARRIED AND THEY DECIDED TO DO A LITTLE COURT AND THE ONLY REASON WHY THEY DIDNT DF HIMN WAS BECAUSE I COULD NOT DESCRIBE HIS PENIS IF IT WAS CIRCUMSISE OR NOT AT THAT TIME IDIDNT EVEN KNOW WHAT THAT WAS NOW I DO BECAUSE I HAVE MY KIDS I TOLD MYSELF HOW COULD THIS RELIGION ALLOWED SOMEONE LIKE THIS BE TEELING THE WORD OF GOD AND PUTTING GOD FIRST AND THEN DOING SOMETHING SO TERRIBLE! NOW MY BROTHER IS BAPTISED HE DONT TALK TO ME ANYMORE BECAUSE I WONT FORGET ABOUT THE PAST AND I COMMIT TO THE JW WELL HIS LOST . ALL MY LIFE I FELT THAT MY MOM NEVER LOVED ME. ANYBODY OUT HERE BEEN THROUGH THERE?
ABUSED/HARRASSED
by THERESA 10 Replies latest jw experiences
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NewLight2
Please turn off your "caps Lock" key. All caps, make one think that one is SHOUTING at us.
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crawdad2
hi theresa,........ i'm sure stuff like that happens alot in the jw religion........even when it's not about sex............ and if you speak out about it, you are labled a liar............... men are given positions of authority, and the whole organization is set up to promote that authority and ridicule and expel anyone who questions them.
Edited by - crawdad2 on 4 July 2002 19:38:22
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Lady Lee
Theresa You most definitely are not alone. Many of us here have been abused by men in the congregation. My abuser was caught in the act. They did nothing to him and sent me into foster care - away from my family for almost 4 years. I thought I was the bad one. They sure made me out to be the bad one
I'm sorry for what you have gone through. In my opinion the WTS is not a clean organization. There are literally thousands of us who have been abused and nothing was done. Good for you for protecting yourself in the past and now for speaking out. (((Theresa)))
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mommy1
HI Theresa,
I was molested at 11 by a "brother" and I know how shocking it is when something so sick happens to you by a "perfect" brother. My Father did believe me when I told him, but ,he didn't go to the police. Just the Elders and well no witnesses so they didn't do anything. Describe his penis? Did this "brother" show his penis to the judicial comittee? They just seem to give the man the benefit of the doubt. I had a judicial commitee with as I mentioned in another post where one of the elders rubbed my feet while I told him about losing viginity. This is a great site to go to where other people have experienced similar things. Best wishes to you..
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THERESA
Crawdad2,Ladylee,mommy1; Thank you so much for writing I felt so relieved that I am not the only one that has gone through this all along my brother & mom allways told me I was making a big deal about it and now that Im the adult I know that its against the law to harass and expose themselfs to someone. With this I stopped my mom from making me mad I told her that if that man would ever come near me again I would press charges. They pretty much have left me alone on the other hand they allways are telling me that; GOD doesnt listen to my prayers because I celebrate holidays and I will get destroyed with armaggedon the great they say armagedon the great is the Catholic and the rest of the religions around the world! I dont believe this at all they are all perfect they say they dont sin or make mistakes they even have people that eat the bread and wine when they have the memorials they say there allowed to eat and drink from them because there the chosen ones one of the 144 thousand and that they dont sin at all because there perfect , I believe nobody is perfect because of adam and eve's sin and because God is so loving and great thats why JESUS gave his life for us, through him we have forgiveness for our sins and his HOLY SPIRIT to help us in life. Well to make this story short it is sad that they are that way like they have no humanity in them , GOD teaches us to love theres even a scripture in the bible love the neighbor and they dont obey it because they critize everyone else and there allways gosoping about every one else and they have hate in that reilgion they shun you and make you feel awful I ve seen it done to others and GOD doesnt want that ! Thanks again hope to hear from you again! THERESA
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mommy1
It is somthing how they can shun you for celebrating holidays and trying to be a good human being and yet the sicko that exposed himself to you is their"Brother"! My Dad took video about 12 years ago of when the kingdom hall was getting remodeled. I came to visit my Brother and he showed me by accident the "kingdom Hall" video and right there in front of my eyes "Brother Molester" comes right up to the camera and says "Hi (my Dad's first name) How ya doing?" My Dad wasn't home when I saw this tape so he doesn't know I saw it. So I know where my Dad's loyalty is. I never told him I saw this tape because well How do you ask your father "HEY Dad, how come you were taking video of the guy that molested me, and yet you have no video of your own daughter?"
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THERESA
Mommy1 I know how you feel my mom would and still up until this point she has had yardsale's
invites them to her house to eat and visite and whats awful is that I leave right in back of her house
and everytime I see her with them my heart brakes! I have asked her how can she be so cruel? And
she tells me your making a big deal of it the past is the past just forget about it, but how can you
forget something like that , something like that never goes away it scars you for life. I have forgive
him for my sake because having all this anger was hurting me more than him he went on like he did
really good! (I GUESS THE JW DONT HAVE A CONSCIENCE) try not to feel bad they are blinded.
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mommy1
It's amazing how she can wipe the slate clean as they say for him and not for you. I get very angry sometimes too. I have found if I just go into a room and cry and write things down on a piece of paper and just let it out , I usually feel better. I always rip up that paper as a symbol of my strength to get on with it.
Is your Mom still living in the house where sicko exposed himself to you? If it is and you are living right behind it that is like having a constant reminder. I always get nervous when I go by the apartment complex where we lived when I was molested and even though molester is dead I still associate the apartment with him.
Have you been to Silentlambs.org ? It's a good place to go when you need support about sexual abuse from JWs.
Take Care of Yourself Theresa.
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THERESA
Mommy1 Thats exactly how i feel sometimes all my teenage year till I was 20 I felt sad , alone and I was suicidal too. I allways felt my mom never loved me and I allways asked myself how could she be that way? no my mom leaves in another house than where it happened, thank GOD. There are times that I dont want to see my mom , but then I feel bad because shes old shes 74 yrs and she can only see from one eye she depends on me alot and I have to force myself to not express my feelings or get angry with her because im not going to have her forever and I try to make the best of it and theres days she can really say hurtful things to me and I have to eat it all up and stay quiet.
I m so glad that I found a friend that I can talk to and that understands and believe it can happen without telling me liar or you making a big deal out of it! THERESA