Trot,
You mentioned something that I think is of extreme importance to understand: The incredible courage it takes for many to leave the Witnesses. I was baptized at 11, and did not leave until I was in my 40's. You can imagine how much of my world was wrapped up in being a JW. I had been given a huge number of privileges, and I knew if I walked away many of the people who had looked up to and admired me would now see me only with contempt. THAT's a hard one to handle at times.
One of the great JW myths is that it's the weak who leave. The reality is that it often takes the greatest courage to walk away from being a Witness. Those who do know very well, in advance, what it's going to cost them - lifelong friendships, the respect of your peers, perhaps a marriage, and possibly even your family.
Thanks to all for sharing your stories. And thanks for the welcome to the Newbies.
S4