by Crystal 60 Replies latest social relationships
I agree, WP. When I turned my back on the society, an exciting new world opened to me. Now, as for interacting, where are the instructions?
As for my being a tech nerd, I blame that on genetics. Always did enjoy breaking things with an eye for trying to fix them. Only that got me more spankings than chemistry and tool sets from my not-so progressive jw parents.
Now, as for interacting, where are the instructions?
You are right. We have to learn those things now, which we should have being taught when we were teenagers. My older sister is a prime example of what a sheltered life can do. She is not able to look after herself and she is 50 and my parents can't understand why. Well she had an over protected childhood and a contolling husband for 30 years and it was all do to the religion.
Will
Hmmm... in my few months of being single so far I feel the experience has been really positive. I find that I spend a lot less time on this site and more time interacting with people with different backgrounds and experiences. Funny thing is that all of my new close friends who have never been witnesses really seem to understand what I've gone through. Many times they are more interested in knowing the details than I would have thought. Everyone has their own stories and 'baggage' and it's cool when you can appreciate what the other person brings to the table. Another funny thing is that I've met a lot of exJW's through non-witnesses. It's a small world!
It seems that we are all not as unique as we would like to think we are. We all have similar struggles in life... finding out who we really are. We just have different ways of getting where we are (not that it's necessarily voluntary). I personally don't feel like I need another exJW to understand me and my experiences. I almost feel like any relationship built on that foundation would be one-dimensional and boring. But then again, what do I know... I've only been single for a few months! :)
rem
Relationship status is in limbo. I am in kind of a "where do I go from here?" stage.
Dutchie, sorry about your husband. I was a young widower also. It is pretty wierd applying it to someone young.
Boozy
I am divorced and available.
Dutchie, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. The pain must still be terrible.
Richard
Edited by - Skeptic on 22 July 2002 21:53:30
Well, I left the org @17 and took a few years of living WILDLY and catching up on life.. met an Italian catholic ( not the good kind*W*), married and still am... Happy As Larry! ( generally)
Hmmm... Romance status.
Well, I always figure I've got one girl that I have sex without a condom with at any time. Hence, she must be my girlfriend, but that's not too romantic.
From a romance perspective, I was married for a long time (nine years) and she's still a friend/lover but it's nice to be apart. I'm pretty proud of myself for getting her out of the borg, even though the marriage didn't make it.
These days I'm just a hedonist. Any sisters passing through Los Angeles are welcome to come rest at my oasis. :^)
Goodboy.
single all of my life. messed around some since i've been out of the org, but basically scared of boys (damn religious upbringing!). i like being single, i hate being single... what can you do?
Single and divorced. Tried like hell to get my spouse to follow me out, but she had too many emotional ties and family ties to the Watchtower. She was terrified of leaving what had been the center of her life for 30 years. We rode the on again/off again rollercoaster for years and finally divorced. Now that she is gone and it's finally over, I've been enjoying my life again. The stress of waiting and arguing is gone.
I agree with Xena that Ex JWs carry baggage. Some more than others. My bags are much lighter since meeting other former JWs. Associating with them is a healing experience for me. I've met some great people. My viewpoints and opinions have been significantly expanded in just about every area. It's fascinating to hear about everybody's path in life and their insights, their experiences. There's an "instant connection" factor there you don't find with anybody else.
