I agree with dustrabbit....
When I was locked up one time, I used my one phone call to call mom to bail me out. All I heard was how I was gonna die when the "end" came... and since I made my bed, I had to sleep in it. I sat there till trial.
Years later, after I am married, settled down, doing my thing... I get a call.... her current hubby (#4 or #5) was either hitting her or threatening to. I thought for a minute, then answered her with her own words... "mom, you made your bed......"
We dont speak now... I cannot speak to her as long as she is a witness. It is nice to turn the tables.
Animal