by writerpen 30 Replies latest jw friends
OH YES. I now have a ministry to help those coming out. To see the website visit
http://www.Mydigitracts.com/page.asp?user=watchtower_escape.
I was saved several months ago and my wife and I were Baptized at Memorial Baptist Church in Beckley WV in April. Where we have been attending since December 2001.
Ron
I agree with Fire Dragon and Rekless, I am not as judgmental (negatively) as we were ENCOURAGED to be, regardless of the double-talk, we were expected to consider ourselves 'set apart' , the pitiable people 'in the world' could be like us if they were only humble enough. !!!
I recall telling an elder of the sad case of a little boy at school with my son, about 6 years old, his mother had died a year or so before then his father suddenly died of a heart attack.He had a brother a year or two older than himself, but no relatives for hundreds of miles.The elders response?The family weren't in the truth were they, oh, someone will look after them.Fortunately for the little boys someone did look after them, not JW's.
To be positive now, yes I do hope I am generally a better person now, and care more for other people.
I dunno, I find it kind of disturbing you guys think the only reason you are caring for people is because you left the dubs.
I dunno I guess I never felt the same self-righteous attitude some of you had. I don't think I have changed at all. I have always cared about people, and human kind as a whole. Being a dub had nothing to do with having a large heart. It's just me.
Do you all of you who answered yes to this think it's ONLY because you left the dubs, or do you think you have just grown as people?
(not trying to bash anyone here at all, I am just really curious--it kind of surprised me to hear you all share these feelings)
So true - Much more love and understanding. In fact, that's why I don't follow any religion, b/c most of them have the same mentality. When you look at things from a universal prospective you see the futility of branding yourself with a religion.
But you made me think about when I left the Borg and started visiting my non-jw family, the ones I rejected or had minimum contact with for years. Once I got to finally know them as individuals It shocked me that the were good, caring, and loving parents - Not to mention having decent and loving families. That really opened my eyes to the indoctrination process - Damn, with all these frivolous lawsuits, I should sue the Borg for keeping me in ignorance for the majority of my life :) I guess the bottom line is people are people, some good some bad in any venue of life.
To add insult to injury, I loved when disasters happened b/c I thought it would prove the Borg and it's phophecys right. I never give consideration to the human element and the fact that 'worldy' people had feelings. Remember, the Borg alway used the example of Noah and how his family were the only ones to survive, so we shouldn't feel sorry for 'worldly' folks if they die b/c they were warned by Jw's. A twisted and sick mentaility!
Yes I have much more love and understanding. In fact, I wish I could apologize to all the people I judged while I was on a judicial committee and all the family members I judged as un worthy of association.
Peace - LL.
Joanna - I've thought about it and...
When asked why I left the Borg, I often say "My love for people out grew the love that I was taught."
Peace - LL :)
Do you all of you who answered yes to this think it's ONLY because you left the dubs, or do you think you have just grown as people?
I think by leaving the dubs, I have grown as a person which includes understanding what it truly means and feels like to love people. As a Witness I was taught that to love someone meant that you knocked on their door, which never really felt like love. As a dub I was never allowed to volunteer for community organizations that help people beyond religion like the fire station, animal shelters, soup kitchens, hospitals, etc. You know, the things that treat people's physicals needs, which when you really start doing that, you see firsthand the pain of life. As a dub, the physical aspect of life was unimportant, and that showed in how often the sick were visited in the Halls I attended, NEVER. As a dub, all I saw was are they a Witness or not! If not, then I try to make them a Witness, and if they don't accept, then they remain like aliens to me (or worldly). joannadandy, i have to honestly say that being out of the borg has allowed me to grow as a person, which has meant that I am truly understanding what it means to love people. I left last August, and I have seen such growth in my life. As a result, one of the primary differences I've noticed from that growth is the love I feel for people now. They are no longer aliens.
Yes. I find I dont judge people as I once did which now leaves me free to love people for what they are. No longer do I value them based on what they believe or what group they are with. It is not until you are removed from this judgmental club known as the WTBTS that you suddenly realize what an ass you have been, an utter judgmental and bigoted ass.
Just one more reason to hate the Tower; it sucks the humanity and natural affection out of people.
Freeman
YES!
YES!!!!!!!
I also find I don't judge people right away or by their choice of religion.
Absolutely! As a JW I just loved the chosen few. How wrong is that!
