Baptism is the first step toward disfellowshipping, and letting (or making) a 10 or 11 year old kid get baptized in the first place is where the real crime is. And it is also blatant stupidity on the part of parents. Don't they realize that sooner or later, the hormones are going to kick in and their 14 year old teen-agers, who are "doing what kids naturally do", aren't going to know what hit them. By the time that I left the organization, my oldest daughter was 11, and already pressure was being put on her and us to get her baptized. But my wife and I nipped it in the bud and even told everyone what we thought about that: We'd already seen half-a-dozen 12, 13 and 14 year olds disfellowshipped------why in the world would we want to take a chance on adding to the total? But everyone just kept pushing their kids into it anyway. I still can't understand it.
David