chaperones

restorebeauty

When you all were dating JWs, did you have to have a chaperone everytime you went out?

Did you always adhere to this rule? How did you get around it without getting caught?

JanH

restorebeauty,

When you all were dating JWs, did you have to have a chaperone everytime you went out?

Not really. We were not supposed to meet alone, and for a few months, we didn't. My dad, however, had quite recently married, and remembered very well how it was, so he stayed out of our way.

I remember him coming up the stairs to my room when we were there alone: *stomp* *stomp* "helloo!" "I am coming up!" - waiting - more stomping - knock on door - wating 'till I opened it

Perhaps he wasn't the typical dub elder dad???

Did you always adhere to this rule? How did you get around it without getting caught?

Not very difficult at all. When we wanted to, we were alone together.

- Jan

It's just plain silly having some gooseberry with you when you are trying to get to know someone. Believe me I know, I've been on many many formal dates as a witness, but only as a chaperone! I was that gooseberry!

I seem to be over-using the icon recently!

restorebeauty

But how do you really get to know someone.

You probably don't. Many thats why a lot of the marraiges are in trouble.

Xander

That's *exactly* how we were taking. Always had a chaperone. Mostly at the then-GFs insistence.

It was probably because we both had lots of....mmm...?bad?....thoughts, and always felt guilty as a result. Thus, we felt the society was always right (guilty = we must be thinking wrong thoughts = must need chaperone!).

No, we weren't brainwashed at all!

Matty

A lot of Witnesses seem to start discussing marriage after the second or third date! It's very sad, you almost sense an air of desperation when witnesses get together on a date, the expectations are too high. Their choices are so limited they seem to make do with anyone that shows a little interest!

Fact: The last time I asked a sister out, she said no and she went on to say that she "wasn't interested in marriage at the present time". I thought to myself, "I only asked you out, I didn't propose!"

Kingpawn

When you all were dating JWs, did you have to have a chaperone everytime you went out?

I had one date with a JW girl, and a chaperone went along. Her (my date's) dad needn't have worried. Getting this girl in the sack was the last thing I had on my mind. On a 1-5 scale I'd've given her a 3.5. Actually the chaperone was better looking so I asked her out! No dice.

Mulan

Hahhahahhahahha. I was dating in the 60's, before the chaperone RULE.

We enforced it though, with our kids. I'm sure they were inventive. People in love can be very creative. And you know what? I don't care. I would have cared, back then though.

Lady Lee

yup always had a chaperone although I think we only went out once that I can remember - other times was always in a group

and no we never avoided it - I hardly knew him and didn't want him touching me

it was an arranged marriage

Edited by - Lady Lee on 8 August 2002 19:9:29

Stephanus

Here's Fred Hall's diary, from when an elder asked him to chaperone his son:

Dear Diary,
I can't believe the nerve of those apostates! Going on about the UN thing like it is somehow significant! Even when our betters at Bethel have come forward and explained that it was in order use the UN library that Brother Barry filled out the application. As though using a library is like sleeping with a filthy Babylonian whore! These apostates have too much time on their hands; they should be attending Christian meetings at the Kingdom Hall again, and reading Christian publications put out by the Faithful and Discreet Slave so as to be capable of right thinking again. Instead, they have all this time on their hands to try and dig up dirt on the Society. That they keep finding so much is not an issue, of course! In a field so fertile as the Watchtower Bible and Tract Society, there's bound to be some manure...
This evening I was able to be of service to Jehovah's people in a big way! Elder Nimrod Hunt and his wife were going out, so they asked me to chaperone for their son and his girlfriend, who was over for the evening. After getting home from the sewage plant, I showered thoroughly and got dressed in clean clothes and used lots of deodorant as they had requested (they were very firm about that - I wonder why...) I walked the mile or so to elder Hunt's house in order to take on this great privilege in Jehovah's service; obviously it was too much trouble to pick me up, or elder Hunter would have done so. Elder Hunt grunted hello and goodbye but didn't pay much more attention to me (he obviously has much on his mind, being charged with the responsibility of guarding God's flock), showed me a pile of Christian publications that I was welcome to read, and he and his wife left. Elder Hunt's son, Mike and his girlfriend, elder Noah Tall's daughter, Dana, sat with me for a few minutes while we chatted about Jehovah's service, as you should in such a situation. They later excused themselves and told me they had some chores to do in elder Hunt's bedroom. I heard some creaking noises coming from the bedroom and called out, asking what was going on. They called back that they were fixing the bed, being both handy with tools! After a few more minutes, I heard them both yelling a lot. Again I asked what was happening, and they said that they'd banged their fingers with a hammer. I thought that that was rather strange that they'd both bang their fingers at the exactly the same time, but I suppose it's possible. Some minutes later they came down, looking rather dishevelled and sweaty, but very happy. It must be a good feeling to help out Mom and Dad in that way! Elder Hunt came home at about 9:00pm and asked if everything had been alright and above board. I assured him that there was no way that anything untoward could have happened so early in the evening. He seemed to accept that answer, grunted his thanks and dismissed me so I could walk home again.
Well Diary, it's been a long day and I'm too tired to even look at my Jennifer Lopez picture tonight! Here comes Mom with the cocoa, so, Good Night!

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