Jw.com has it helped you?

haujobbz

Since i have been posting on this site i found a lot of posts interesting and vice versa,but i have also noticed that cetain ones on here arent helping themselves by continually looking at faults in their former beliefs,i find that this cant help you as a victim, im not saying i am not guilty of doing this i did do it at first but then realised it wasnt helping me overcome the trauma of my former beliefs, surely by trying to focus on the future and on how you can improve your state of mind maybe by self help books,counselling,and maybe speaking to ones on here who can possibly help you get through what they have been through, i mean surely you want to break free from the chains you used to be in.

Dont get me wrong im not being harsh but only trying to help others,i mean jw.com is an open discussion forum to a degree,i also find it enjoyable on here,sometimes its not enjoyable because certain individuals are quite negative about views they dont agree on and i do expect that.

So has jw.com helped you or hasnt it.

Are you addicted to this site and cant live without it.

Also i do tend to take my previous beliefs lightly and have a joke about the things that were taught and went on,i try not to take it to serious at least im free from it and have my own mind that makes me so happy.

Tish

I personally have found it a great help to realise that you are not alone, and that people have exactly the same experiences as myself.

It can come across that some are obsessed with our old personal beliefs but lets face it, we were obsessed before! Also we are all on different parts of our journey to full realisation of what we had been involved in.

I would like to say a big thank you to all those I have talked to in the chat room esp Vivamus and all those who have posted me direct.

You have got to remember that I know that I personally was devastated when I was chucked out as I thought I was dead as far as God would see. But others including Da_Luvvin_Bravva and others have helped me to see that he still luvs us all.

Tish

onacruse

Without this forum, and the wonderful support of everyone here, I would still be wallowing in my own self-pity.

Best "addiction" I've ever had!

Craig

Prisca

As Tish said, posting here and on other ex-jw boards previous to this, has helped me realise I'm not alone in my exit from the Borg. This was more important when I was first learning how wrong the WTS is. Now, I'm pretty stable in my beliefs, and see this site more as a place of friendship and mutual support.

Living in Australia, the ex-JW "movement" so to speak, does not have much exposure, so it is hard to find other ex-jws. Through this board, we have been able to form an informal group that meets up now and again (our Apostafests), many of whom are now personal friends of mine. We try to keep visible on this board, so that Australian lurkers can realise they are not on their own.

As for the negativity on this board towards the WTS, I try to stay away from it. I don't harbour much bitterness towards the Borg, and I don't think it is healthy concentrating on the negative aspects of anything. I prefer to appreciate my new-found freedom, and to enjoy life.

Guest 77

The late Will Rogers once said, "The more I travel, the more I realize how little I know." Life is a learning experience. Some people think they know it all yet they don't realize that we use 1% of our brains potential!

Competitive golf has been a learning experience for me because every shot has to be thought out, if not, expect bogeys, double and triple bogeys. You must 'adapt' to errant golf shots that result in bogeys and double doubles, life is no different. Tiger Woods did not win this past weekends PGA tournament though he made a valiant effort in his closing holes. You cannot afford to be negative in competitive sports. Life is no different, we have to adapt to the bad as well as to the good.

I come to this forum to see what's new and scan post's that are positive. Yes, their are those who are without compassion and understanding, I pity them. If they want to remain miserable, so be it. Life does offer great things, the question is, are we willing to reach out and move ahead? That's for each of us to decide. Happy hunting.

Guest 77

butalbee

When I needed help in my situation, yes it was extremely helpful, a lot of wonderful people post here, that made me feel like they actually cared about me, which was refreshing...There is a great support group here on jw.com that I have not ever seen on any other web site. But in another aspect--sometimes it wasn't the most positive place--by viscious attacks by rowdy posters but I take the good w/ the bad. That's life.

rosalyn

Prisca: Your insight is lovely to read.

haujobbz:You are new to this site and the opinions vary don't they? I am new here too even though I have been out of the org. since 1981. It has been a long haul and the un-brainwashing is still going on. Have had some terrible times adjusting to the outside world. I am really loving the freedom now but it's taken a long time.

In many ways I am glad a site like this did not exist way back when(there was no internet in the good old days) because knowing my personality I wouldn't have wanted to leave the haven. I am glad that I didn't come into contact with other ex witnesses until 1992. I really wouldn't have proceeded with my life. I did suffer culture shock but I had three young children and kids can bring you back to reality very fast.

However, a couple of my never-have-been witness friends urged me to contact x jw's. I did 10 years ago and it's been a good experience for me. I am finding out so many things that I would not have if I had stayed within the other worldly refuge I had so carefully created for myself. Didn't want to acknowleged the false religion I had grown up in. Had a fun and safe childhood but the religion put too many dark clouds over it.

We all are at different stages of the great exit from the org so our feelings and sentiments will be quite varied but at least we can come in here and voice them without too much flack. And if I happen to meet up with someone who can't tolerate me or wants to avoid me I know I can dust my shoes off to carry on down that road of life and not feel too slighted. Oh yes my feelings will be hurt but I won't likely go to pieces.

For the most part this board and the live chat has been a wonderful addiction and therapy for me. And I do plan on sticking with it because I have had the priviledge of making some new friends in the flesh....someone I can hug and hang on to. I love my solitude but I love people and being with them. I hope you will find the same.

rosalyn

Vivamus

I am addicted.

I love this place because it shows that I am not alone. When I feel bad about something, I can post it here, and you all will know what I mean. There is also a lot of humour here, with maybe a sarcastic note towards the WTS. This is just a fantastic place to meet ex-JW, and having been Dubs does create a certain bond. And I have become to really like a lot of people here.

Love and hugs,

Viv.

ugg

I AM NOT ALONE!! thanks to this site.....do i say negative things about the organization...YES..it is a release and way to heal...keeping things
in has almost killed me..to beable to speak honestly and face the
reality of things is some thing not taught by the organization....the
REAL truth has been an eye opener!!

DIAMOND

I have to agree with the others. When I first found this site I thought I was the only one going through this HELL. I was amazed to find out that so many other had the exact same situation as me. When I first posted I was encouraged at all the help and advice given to me. It was and still is wonderful. Even though I don't post alot, I'm here everyday reading and getting encouragement from people like me that I don't even know.....So my answer is YES. This place has helped me out alot.

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