Did you experience favouritism at meetings?

by haujobbz 24 Replies latest jw friends

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  haujobbz

  As former jw i did witness favouritism towards elders and circuit overseers and also noticed how low status j-dubs actually lined up to speak to the circuit/overseers wife.Even outside association seemed to be confined to say elders associating with elders etc

  I remember when even a sister gave a glass of water to a coughing circuit.overseer but i noticed she never did this to others in the hall.

  Then for instance how many at the hall formed groupies after meetings not making any effort to gell with others,i felt so sorry for those just sitting on there own.

  So why do they act like this, it beats me because a lot of literature and talks focused on not being impartial to others,were they really taking it in or was it a question of congregation status or favouritism towards others.

  Also outside the meetings association didnt seem to exist and only confined to a certain favoured individuals.
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  Trauma_Hound

  Ya I noticed this alot, when I was about 16 I was shipped off to my grandparents in Arizona, my grandfather being elder, I was treated differently because I was an elders grandson, but it was all good, when they really got to know me. *evil grin*
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  Simon

  There were lots of 'clickes' at the hall (not sure if that's the correct spelling)

  Too often people associated will others only when they wanted something. I remember time and again peolpe coming up and talking to me (who otherwise never saw me) and the end of the conversation would be a request for me to come and setup a computer or video or something (for free).

  My brother in law ran what can only be described as a campaign to become an elder. One minute he was slagging off the presiding overseer, the next he is inviting him round for dinner. After he was made an elder, they changed their friends and began to associate with the other elders and their wife's etc ...

  One young boy in our hall gave a talk and was counselled because he did not have a suit on and his trousers and jacket did not match (from a single parent family who could not afford a suit for a 10 year old). The elder doing the counsel allowed his son to do a talk at the same meeting wearing jeans and trainers on the platform!
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  SYN

  I sat on my own a lot
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  Trauma_Hound

  Ack, that's pretty cold hearted, maybe she/he should have said "Well brother, are you saying jehovah cares more about a suite or us eating?" ;)
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  haujobbz

  RE: simon

  I experienced exactly the same things regarding the computer side of things due to being a computer techinician and webpage designer,i did sell a lot of pcs to brothers though.

  I remember fixing or upgrading pcs for j-dubs and noticing them having copied versions of win 98 and even 2 weeks later an article in the magazines came out on pirated software and they sill didnt bother to buy an original version that was funny considering how much importanced they stressed on everything else.

  Then i remember how an elder made out i ripped him off,and i gave him a great deal and at one time i joked about the so called ripoff pc i sold him and he got really offended and said what you trying to say."I just laughed"

  I also remember chewing in the hall and then got grassed on for it by the same elder who said i ripped him off,then weeks later his 8yr old son gave a talk on how we should be obedient to those taking the lead and even mentioned about chewing in the hall,but guess what his son was counselled for applying material at the wrong thing,it was so funny and i looked at the elder after the talk and smiled he hated that and looked up in the air it was obvious he prepeared the talk for his son.After that we never got on with each other.
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  HoChiMin

  JW meetings are a social gathering. At any social gathering there will be wall flowers and there will be very outgoing people. The reason it is noticed is they preach this "love" amongst them is a sign they are chosen by God. They are not chosen by God, therefore the result is as it is.

  HCM
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  haujobbz

  Re:hotchimin

  I totally agree !!!!

  And its funny how at most times they claimed how they were so loving compared to other religions,i remember when i saw other people coming out of their churches and looked so much happier than jws.

  I still think about the ones who were left sitting on there own i felt really bad seeing them, i think a few even stopped going after a few ignoring sessions.

  Oh then theres the memorial now that takes the biscuit how everyone was on best behaviour at these occasions and talked to new visitors and ignored there rest.I also remember the tramps that used to come into the hall that was funny.
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  Dizzy Cat

  haujobbz

  I know of an existing *brother* who is a massive pirate. Big time!

  This guy will be the first one to point out faults within other people. There is a glaring reason for his hypocrisy, as he sits at home and ties his PC up 24/7 streaming MP3s off the net, this doesn't seem to hit him though? Weird isn't it. Double standards. He will openly admit that he is not willing to pay for most things in life and states the main reason being that the commercial world is a rip off. Which is probably true, but when I served as a JW I would never have dreamed of downloading and distributing other peoples music, due to the Watchtower stating that basically it is theft and sinful.

  Nowadays I'm not so hard in this area and have quite a few copied albums, although when I can afford, I will go out and buy new music.

  Hypocrisy is one of the easiest faults to find in another person, and within ourselves quite often. The reason I get upset, is when people are really hard on other people and not so hard on themselves. Very annoying!
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  dsgal

  My son and I always came into meetings and sat alone while the cliques all socialized.It's funny,the things they do are just the opposite of what they are suppose to be studying about.(Agape love,kindness towards widows and orphans).The kingdom hall was the coldest place I had ever been in my life.We finally got tired of all the hypocrisy and got out of there.They talk about what a wonderful place the new world is going to be but who wants to live in a world with a bunch of snobs?I'd rather die now if that's the case.