I agree with you many have and do wonderful things for others - I think they would have done that even if they were not Dubs. May I have a personal trumpet blast here.....We have done and still are doing "things" for other dubs. That's just how it is. However when wife and I stopped attending the "good deeds" toward us ended like a light switch.
Agape' love is not supposed to work like that.
Current things we were able to do: Assist elderly sisters whose pensions are so minimal that they cannot come by in the month, with shopping and money - Why - cos the congo was not willing to assist them.
btw we are totally faded out now.