My cousin and I both had sons who got involved with drugs, smoking cigarettes, sex and booze. Mine was baptized, hers wasn't. Mine was df'd and of course her son wasn't.
The stupidity was that her son was still welcome at all the family gatherings, while mine had to sit it out. Both were 'bad' weren't they? That one really frosted me. Her son could be part of a family wedding, at the KH, but mine had to sit in the back, and no one would talk to him. What was the difference?
Even now, 25 years later, her son is not a JW, still involved in all of the above, not married, in and out of jail all the time, but still treated like a favored member of the family. Don't get me wrong, I love him very much.................when he is with the family, he is very funny, entertaining and very endearing. He was wonderful with his mother when she was dying, and I will never forget that about him. His grandmother, who is a JW, openly calls him her favorite................but, but, but ??????
Anyway, that is my stupid org. rule comment.