Mortality

by DakotaRed 25 Replies latest jw friends

  • DakotaRed
    DakotaRed

    At one time, nearly all of us held the thought that we would live forever. The thought of our being mortal and actually dying just wasnt there. Deep inside, we all know we are going to die one day, but has the realization of the truth of that ever just hit you, right out of the blue? It did me a couple weeks ago.

    Im no stranger to death, having seen it many times. But, I also carried the idea that it wouldnt get me, not for a long time, anyway. I carried a bravado attitude during my time in Vietnam that the bullet that could get me hadnt been invented, like most of us did there. Mostly, that attitude was to hide the fear I felt every day. But still, the realization that death could strike me at any time just wasnt there. Since then, while knowing it could happen, that realization still wasnt there. Joining the JWs even reinforced my faulty thought that I could live forever. Even after leaving the JWs, the thought has still been there that living forever was attainable. That thought came to a crashing halt over the last couple weeks.

    I have been dealing with high blood pressure for a couple years now, nothing really serious, but I have been taking medications for it. A couple weeks ago, during a routine visit to the doctor for my prescription to be refilled, although feeling fine and in good spirits, my blood pressure was sky high, even though taking the medication on a regular basis. Add to this, my Dad died of a sudden massive heart attack right after he turned 54 and I turn 54 soon myself. Every test they have given me over the last couple years has come back negative, except for cholesterol, which is high, but not radically high. Diet hasnt helped it, so I got a prescription for that, the doctor explaining that sometimes, cholesterol is genetic.

    What drove my mortality home to me, though, was that a day or two after the appointment, the doctors office called and had me scheduled for tests of my heart. Ive always been told that I have a strong heartbeat and things sound good. However, they scheduled an EKG and a stress test for me. The EKG was a week ago Saturday and theyre no big deal, other than having patches of my chest hair shaved. Even the lab technician who administered it said I looked in pretty good shape for a 53 year old. (Ill take any flattery I can get). But, over the next week, sitting here all alone with nothing but my thoughts and my cats, the thought came to me that I wasnt really invincible. Of course, knowing how my Dad died, knowing my blood pressure was high for no real apparent reason and thinking of facing the stress test Friday, for the first time, really stressed me. What if they find something wrong? What if it hits me like it did my Dad? If you can think of a ridiculous thought, I probably had it.

    Last Friday, I got off work early and went to the cardiology unit for the stress test. More chest hair shaved. The funniest part was the nurse looking for a fingertip to draw blood from that wasnt callused. No chance, not with me being a mechanic. At any rate, I completed the test and received a clean bill of health. Other than genetics, they have no idea why my blood pressure shot up that day. I breathed a huge sigh of relief and felt like a fool for stressing about it in the first place. But, at least it has been checked.

    Still, I now have the realization that Im really not going to be around forever. None of us are. The false hope the Watchtower gave us all is just a bunch of Bovine Scatology. I urge all of you to take care of yourselves, watch your diet and keep check on your blood pressure. I wish to be around for as long as humanly possible, myself.

  • notperfectyet
    notperfectyet

    Dakota,

    That was a very moving post for me.

    I have had to face my mortality twice in the past year. One, not seeing the paradise I was promised to play with Panda Bears and Lions and grow younger every day. (when would we stop growing younger every day?)

    Second facing a life threatening illness. Hang in there everyone. We have one life to live. Be all that you can be,..I think I watch to much T.V....

  • Dutchie
    Dutchie

    First of all I'm so glad that you got a clean bill of health. You know the old adage, if you have your health you have everything. I suppose only when we fall ill do we realize how true that really is.

    Since we now realize that everlasting life on a paradise earth is just a watchtower fairy tale, the best we can do is to live this life to the fullest and take the best care of ourselves that we know how.

  • Xena
    Xena

    Glad to hear things went well on the tests DakotaRed!

    lol I hear the clock ticking on me sometimes...see the sands trickling away and know that this might be all I have. Scary thought! No wonder so many people turn to religion, huh? Sometimes the shackles of blind faith don't see quite so burdensome when weighted against the belief of immortality. But if nothing else the realization that this may be all I have has made me take the time to stop and smell the roses......

    Thank you for the reminder

  • LB
    LB

    have no idea why my blood pressure shot up that day

    Was she pretty? My BP can shoot up 30 points if the right nurse is taking it.

    I exercise daily and am pretty fit for a 56 year old guy. My son said he hopes he can do what I do when he's my age. The truth is he can't keep up now. But I digress as usual

    Yep we're all going to die. It's a fact. Save your money for old age, exercise so old age is held off a bit and enjoy your life. Sobering thought.

    Oh and you should have kept your head down incountry.

  • Yadirf
    Yadirf

    Dutchie says:

    ...we now realize that everlasting life on a paradise earth is just a watchtower fairy tale,...

    That's not a very wise thing for you to have said, Dutchie. The fact is, that although the WTS is indeed mistaken about some things (such as the 1914 doctrine for example) the doctrine that you refer to as "a watchtower fairy tale" is the most fundamental teaching of the Bible itself. Because of that, and because it is the WTS that is chiefly responsible for making this truth of the Bible known throughout the world, it serves as an earmark for identifying where true Christianity is to be found today. Not heaven-bound Christendom, that's for sure! ... because she doesn't hold to this most basic teaching of the Bible.

    Friday

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  • onacruse
    onacruse

    Dakota, isn't it amazing how the "invulnerability of youth" gives way to reality when we reach middle age and Mortality begins to stare back at us in the mirror? Here I'm 50, in a world that I never imagined would still exist, and while in generally good health, I nevertheless feel that ominous premonition breathing a little more strongly on the back of my neck every day.

    fwiw, I still believe I will live forever, one way or another. After all, what have I got to lose? If it's true, great. If it's not, then I'll never know. Just not to live my life from here on out like the fool I've been for 40 years and ignore the things that make life so enjoyable and precious!

    Glad that your tests came out OK; I just went through my mid-life top-to-bottom physical (I'm SURE some of those probes the doctors used are illegal!!! lol).

    Craig

  • safe4kids
    safe4kids

    LOL @ Craig

    Lew,

    I'm so glad that your tests turned out okay. I have an aunt whose BP is ALWAYS high at the Dr's office, but anywhere else, it shows pretty normal. I think hers is caused just by the stress of going to the Dr. I also have a couple of family members who died relatively young due to heart disease and cancer, so I guess that thought is always in the back of my mind. But, like you, I intend to enjoy whatever amount of time I have here as I don't know what, if anything, occurs after. And yes, giving up the great WTS fairy tale was a difficult transition to make but now I feel like I'm just in the same boat with the rest of humanity and that's okay.

    Dana

  • Yadirf
    Yadirf

    Safe4kids attempts to console herself by saying:

    And yes, giving up the great WTS fairy tale was a difficult transition to make but now I feel like I'm just in the same boat with the rest of humanity and that's okay.

    I think it's quite telling, the connection you make between your denying the hope of everlasting life on earth and such putting you right back in the same situation the "rest of humanity" is in. To content oneself with the words, "I'm as well off as the next person in this world!," is tantamount to the foolishness of being satisfied that you also drowned out at sea simply because you weren't the only one to have drowned. So, you don't mind drowning as long as it's not so uncommon and you have company. LOL. The bulk of humanity are in the dark with regards to God's purpose to restore Paradise to earth, as if creating a "new earth" as it were. Please have it your way though, if you insist, return to that darkness!

    Friday

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  • outoftheorg
    outoftheorg

    Yeah Dakota / Lb and others;

    This getting older and disabusing oneself from the "millions now living will never die" b/s from the drunken lawyer Rutherford is quite a wake up call.

    You guys in your fifties won't get much sympathy from me though. I am 66. This uneasy feeling of recognizing ones mortality gets less important as you age. At least it did for me. I find myself enjoying life more and not worrying about this or that or some religious predictions expounded by some jerk.

    It has amazed me that once the mind is freed from the wbts how much more enjoyable life becomes. The statement "feeling freedom for the first time" has meaning for me.

    Glad your tests turned out good. I truly believe that a relaxed happy life, free from the demands and guilt trips generated by the wbts leads to a longer life.

    Best wishes to you all.

    Outoftheorg

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