Great News! and...Old Memories

by Sentinel 7 Replies latest jw experiences

  • Sentinel
    Sentinel

    My husband's oldest son just made his dad a grandpa again. This time a boy. 9 lbs 1 oz., born at 10:21AM this morning. They named him Seth Thomas Raymond. This makes three grandchildren in our family. The birth took less than an hour-------cutting it very close this time. Everyone is doing fine.

    Hubby took off work today and has been over to the hospital to see him twice already, once by himself this morning and then later today he took Caitlyn to see her little brother for the first time.

    I'm stuck at work, feeling left out. I have lots of stuff going on in my head, and feel like I'm in an emotional turmoil. Last night we watched a three hour event about 911, which was really heartwrenching. Today is the anniversary of my first husband's suicide, and also would be my folks 57th Anniversary, had dad lived. Dad is gone and mom is shunning me. I feel so empty inside; there have been so many losses. I think of my son now, and the fact that he will probably never marry or have children, as he says that marriage doesn't work, and he doesn't want to add to the lineage of his own father by having offspring. So, it doesn't look too promising for me as far as having my own blood grandchild through my son. Seems like I'm always getting the leftovers, and I'm just feeling so sad inside. I hate feeling this way.

    I just cannot understand how a mother could turn her back on her children, I don't care what the circumstances or how old the children get. I think of this new baby and what it means to the family, and how much love there is. The mixture of emotions is overwhelming. Part of me just wants to go ahead and leave work and try to get over to the hospital, and another part of me says that this is my husband's family, and I am only the stepmother. I think perhaps they need this special time together without me there.

    So, I will just finish my work day here and head home at the normal time. I will try to resolve these things that are bombarding my mind, the good news, and the old sad memories, the harsh and cruel realities of a world being plagued by terrorists, and the ongoing injustice of the affects of the WTBTS in my life. I will try to keep my chin up and my hopes high... And, I will look forward to when I can hold a brand new baby in my arms and smell those sweet baby smells that mothers never forget.

    I'll probably return to the forum later on this evening.

    Sentinel/Karen

  • safe4kids
    safe4kids

    Hey (((((((Karen))))))

    Sounds like you have a lot of stuff going on right now. I'm not surprised that you feel overwhelmed by it all. I know I owe you an email and I'm sorry that it's taking me so long to get back to you. It's not a lack of caring; just a lot has been going on what with sick kids and school, etc.

    I don't get the whole mother thing, either. There really isn't anything I can imagine that would make me turn my back on my children. Not that I would necessarily approve of everything they might do, but turn my back?? No way. Especially disgusting is the thought that a man-made religion might cause it.

    I wish I had magic words of comfort to offer you; I don't. But I do understand and relate to some of what you're experiencing, if that helps. I'm sending hugs and warm thoughts your way, sweetie.

    Dana

  • outoftheorg
    outoftheorg

    Hey Sentinal.

    GO SEE THAT BABY as soon as possible. You are a legitimate part of that family. Holding that baby is the best anti depressant I can think of. You will bond some to that baby and that will help you to bond to this family. GO be a part of this family and enjoy it all!

    We all need family connections and we have to work at it.

    I haven't got that down pat yet, but am working at it and it feels very good.

    Congratulations to you and YOUR family.

  • SweatPea
    SweatPea

    Karen......go see Seth Thomas. Hold him, rock him and just give him lots of love. Bond with him, babies could care less if you are a step parent. I have two grand daughters, 8 & 9 years old. I would not take nothing for them. If I had known how much fun they were going to be, I would have had them first!!!

  • termite 35
    termite 35

    Hi Karen;

    you've got a lot to cope with, hav'nt you?

    Is'nt it a cruel irony that we sometimes have sadness heaped on us, just when we could do with it a little at a time.Sorry to hear about your first husband, and the way you're feeling at the moment.

    I think the advice from everyone else is spot on-PICK UP YOUR BAG- GO AND SEE YOUR BOSS...AND GET DOWN TO THE HOSPITAL...

    At least the day can end on a happy note.XXXXX

  • TruckerGB
    TruckerGB

    Hang in there Karen,your not alone,

    Take care,

    Rich.

  • gold_morning
    gold_morning

    Sentinal,

    Go and enjoy this wonderful miracle!! Take the happiness that God has given you in life and relish in it. Leave the pain for him to handle. A birth of a baby is joyous for all. Make this your family now. Show them love. Bring gifts. Help out. Make the new parents dinners. Show your husband how happy you are for him. Show him how happy you are to be a part of his family. Be a part of it all. You will be so much happier and a better person for it.

    You have had enough of being left out... we all have. End it here, don't add too it.

    Go for it and we are here for you.. lots of support and agape love gold morning.

  • sOOner
    sOOner

    Sis,

    just looking into the eyes of a newborn child makes all the difference in the world.Someone new to love and hold.Someone to share your uniqueness with.

    Seth is a lucky fellow to have a grandma like you...

    may all the pain you felt today and tears you cried like rain~ bring a tomorrow filled with sunshine and rainbows

    Your,

    Sis>C /sOOner

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