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terabletera

I have three kids. Sex has never been an issue that we felt was embarrassing. My kids have seen me and my husband kiss and say "ewww, stop that, we hate it when you do that!" And my husband shot back, "If we didn't like doing stuff like this, none of you would have been born!"

Then my six year old little girl said, "just don't be opening your mouth when you do it okay?"

Gee, we had no idea we were so obvious. Oh anyway, they all know how it works and have for a long time. Ever since we used to have two dogs that...well, you know how dogs get "tied" when they make love. Kids got a good shot of that ya know.:) Then we had puppies not so long after.

Mimilly

IMNSHO, those who are against sex education are uptight or scared to death of the topic. It's their way of closing their eyes to reality and hoping it all just turns out alright. In the meantime, they do a huge disservice to their children. Kids are smarter than these people care to admit.

I educated my kids from an early age. I didn't want them having any phobias about their bodies or sexuality (or anyone else's) It's worked.

Mimilly

Farkel

: What do you think, should we hide the facts of life from our children?

Of course not, but there are people who over do it when a child is too young to understand. Case in point: my former dub best friend asked an innocent question about how babies are made when he was six and his anointed mother gave him gynecology 101 using all the medical terms. It scared him sh!tless for years.

The standard rule I applied with my children was to always answer their questions in a way they could understand, but never give them more information than they requested.

When, as a child, I asked my own mother where babies come from, she said "God prepares an opening in the Mother for the baby to come through."

It wasn't until I was 38 years old that I discovered she wasn't talking about a belly button!

Farkel

unclebruce

My youngest (Renee) was 4 years old when she asked me, so i told her. She kept shaking her head saying naaah and went to her mother to see if it was true .. poor kid's now 19 and never been kissed (that i know of)

Just adds weight to my theory that people are more promiscuous when left in the dark.

unclebruce, bellybutton fondler.

Mary

Sex education should definitely be taught in school, because there's just too many parents who don't teach their kids ANYTHING about the facts of life.

Sex was not acknowledged in my family when we were growing up and it still isn't (maybe that's why I'm still single, eh?). I was so totally dumb about sex I had not a clue as to what it was all about. I was 19 before I found out was oral sex meant. I was so dumb I thought it meant talking dirty!!!

unclebruce

Gee Mary,

At assemblies in Australia sex is discussed in detail (with kids fresh from thier mothers belly buttons present) At least that was the case at the Sydney Superdome a year ago.

Never mind though, my JW sister went around calling everyone a "dildo" for a while there .. till the brother in law dragged her into a sex-shop and showed her what a real dildo was!

cheers, unclebruce

Solace

My daughter is 10. She already knew about the menstruation thing because she started this year. Too embarrased to talk about sex, I gave her a book about the facts of life. It was very corny but honest. She read it and put it on the counter and started walking away. She had no expression. Surprised at her nonreaction, I asked her if she had any questions. She turned around and said, "No, I already knew all that stuff." I could have died! I guess I waited too long to tell her, she must have heard about it from her friends. I felt so bad. I wish I would have told her earlier, ya' know?

DJ

My poor little girl. She's 11. I went and bought the best book that I could find for her age group. I took my time and we read through the book together. It started out w/ stories of animals and mating and offspring. She was interested because she is animal crazy. It spoke about flowers and bees and how pollination produces our crops. It was written in a very tender way for a child to learn. When we got to the part about humans, her face went pale and she put her hands over her ears,screamed really loud with her eyes wide open and ran as fast as she could outside. I sat for a minute trying to figure out what I said that could have upset her but came to no conclusion.

I gave her a few minutes alone outside and then I called to her. She responded, "Mommy, if you try teaching me that stuff again before I want to know about it I'll just keep screaming. All I want to do right now is be a kid and you are trying to ruin it for me. You always said that it is fun to be a kid and I want to stay little"

All that I can think of is that she is a lot like me at that age. When we learned in school about sex, I went home that day and sat on the step and made mean faces of disgust at all of the men in the neighborhood when they came home from work. I was horrified that they could do this violent thing to their wives. LOL I think she will be ok. Just a chip off the old blockette. I guess. I've already decided that I will NOT tell my little boy. That's Daddy's job for sure.

bitter mango

How old should children be before they know about sex? Or should I say, be told all about sex?

i'd like to say whenever they ask...but what the hell kinda of kid these days actually communicates with his parents?? so you should prolly start to explain things bit by bit as soon as they start talking. the younger the better - thismight even promote a comfortable and open relationship with you and your kids. i don't know exactly when i learned "about" sex... but i was 11 when i learned how to have sex...and i haven't stopped watching porn since

(btw, i just loovvvvee those parents who think that if you don't talk about it, your kids won't do it - get a clue. gee)

Solace

Mango, So right.

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