We have heard that recently from two individuals. One is a DF'd sister,who works in a city centre dept. store and another is a sister who has simply left the hall and moved to another address. She is happy not to attend and doesn't want anyone to know where she is. BTW both of them have left for romantic reasons and I don't blame them! I thought they might gain some comfort from our view that the WTS is full of garbage……but I was in for a surprise! In fact there was an element of shock that we no longer believed! The reaction toward us was every bit as negative as it would be if we were talking to some regular dubs! Hmmmmmmm
My wife and I couldn't quite work it out but I suppose it shouldn't surprise us really. Some that leave do not necessarily leave because they have issues over doctrine etc. They just leave and still believe, it appears, the full hit of WTS stuff. They both had a degree of disapproval with our course. The one that was DF'd mentioned the Evil Slave Class! Anyone else come across stuff like this? We are generally discrete as to our disbelief, but we were quite upfront with these and subsequently felt we said too much!
well for 15 yrs I felt guilty for not attending meetings...view ed myself as a witness.....so I know it is not easy.....if you are in long enough you get the idea there is no where else to go
even when jw leave for moral reasons they still beleive
currently i know an elder's wife who has been sleeping with a coworker now for over 2 months they get together 3 times a week
i asked the nonjw lady who is a friend of hers to share some apostate info with her and the next day she informed me that the elder's wife went off on her for asking her to read that material
yet she is attending meetings and out in service and at the same time giving away "Coochie" left and right
how sad
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: i asked the nonjw lady who is a friend of hers to share some apostate info with her and the next day she informed me that the elder's wife went off on her for asking her to read that material
Maybe she thought she was asked to read it during her acts of adultery. THAT would take away all the fun and one could see why she was ticked off in that case!
Maybe she thought she was asked to read it during her acts of adultery. THAT would take away all the fun and one could see why she was ticked off in that case
This is probably one of the more frustrating expressions to hear as your friend exhales on his cigarette and says ".. but I still believe it's the truth."
(Right after "where else do we go? What else is there?" LOL)
One must realize that people believe what they believe because they deeply need to believe it for some reason or another. Some need an outside entity to tell them how to live to reassure them that they are living correctly. Some cannot deal with the reality of the natural world where war, sickness, misery and death are part of life, so they disconnect from reality and say, any day now things will be fixed. Some people need this just to get by from day to day.
We who no longer or who never believed it was "the Truth" didn't need to believe it. Which doesn't make us better or worse, just different.
Generally, people who respond with horror to people leaving JWdom over doctrinal or ethical issues are people who 1) know very little about their own religion, and next to nothing about its history; 2) never were very active in the first place, thus being hypocrites; and 3) violates what they claim are their own moral principles, again being hypocrites.
My experience is that all you can do in such cases is to let them politely know you'd be willing to help them if they should decide to engage their brains one day, and then do the proverbial shaking-of-dust-from-shoes and get on with life. As exJWs we have no obligation to run around saving people, especially not from their own idiocy. There's a life ahead for us, and we gotta live it.
- Jan -- "Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen" -- Albert Einstein
