"MY LIFE IS RUINED BECAUSE I WAS A WITNESS...

minimus

I know of so many people that blame everything on the fact that they were Witnesses.Have a lousy job? It's because you were a Witness. Angry over anything? It's because you were a Witness. Don't own a home? You shouldn't have been a Witness. Got chicken-pox when you were a kid? It's because you were raised a Witness. Drink too much? It's because you're a Witness. On the heavy side? The Witnesses made me eat. People think that you're a jerk? It's because you were a Witness..........And on and on it goes. It's true that some problems may have been due to our being Witnesses, but let's not blame everything bad on being a Witness.

Outaservice

I still love rainy Saturday mornings because I was a Witness!

Outaservice

gumby

but let's not blame everything bad on being a Witness.

I didn't know we did. I don't. I am glad in many ways I was. I learned a lot when I got out.....things I wouldn't have known had I not been one.

And tell me........why give them any credit? There were some strong points they had. Problem is....these strong points could have been learned elsewhere. Who needs the shit that went along with the good stuff?

SixofNine

I'm 'bout to have a new doorstep to lay my volumous anger on, crappy topic boy.

Amazing

Hi Minimus: Point well taken ... though, it might depend on how drastically some were hurt ... victims of child abuse in any situation are often scared for life, then add to it how the Society directed their treatment, and it is insult to injury ... I don't think many ex-JWs blame everything on the Watchtower ... but with over 7,000 users just on this forum alone, and we are going to see a concentration of consternation ... some were hurt in one or two ways each, but added together, and the montage can appear quite negative.

Outaservice: I love your dry wit. Also, I still ower you a phone call for some things you sent me, and I have been way behind in that ... will you call tomorrow or Monday. -

minimus

Right on, Amazing!

Granny Linda

Or how about the "shame" that is heaped upon untold millions because someone is judging them as unworthy. Children who are dependent upon adult (parental) guidence and have no voice in their upbringing...and the adults that lack genuine self esteem. I'm of the opinion that a person with a sense of knowing who they are, are less likely to become victimized by any dogmatic religious belief. Thus, my contention with organized religion in general.

It's just a means by which the individual is repeatedly reminded that without some version of some God, there is no hope. The born sinner concept sickens me. Hell, most Christians don't even adheare to their own Jesus theory because HE taught that humans were capable of the same, nay, even greater works then he had performed. So what's the whole point of coming to know God...as defined by Christianity, if on the other hand we are always told what sinners we are. Hogwash!

What I've found interesting over these past 15 years in recovery is that the symptoms really don't seem to change from that of drug addict/alcoholic; religious abuse; workaholic - I'm sure that other dis-eases could be named. And of course there has too be a beginning point of recovery.

I don't know that any one thing is to blame for our neurosis...my father was alcoholic, my mother never felt loved by her parents - then she found a religion that offered her delusions of perfect peace; and believe me, how many religious zealots find it necessary to ever inspect their belief system? Not many.

It is easy, especially in those early days of recovery for pointing the finger. We must learn to turn regret into a positive. We are not going to change the past, but we are now responsible for the quality of our life; we can help determine our future. We must claim and nourish our own god like energies that are the creative force, and yes, begin too put our life into perspective and stop the blame game.

Good topic.

Granny, of the, I don't forget from whence I came, but know recovery works miracles Class.

minimus

Well said Granny! Great perspective and very reasonably expressed.

heathen

I can still say I was never a dub but after being related to some and having some knowledge of the the politics that goes along with being one I can understand the anger of alot of the people on this forum.

bikerchic

Here,here Granny!! I for one can see all the benifits of being raised a dub, sure there were drawbacks but you have to take the good with the bad and move on, just get over it at some point. I think so many people do come here to vent, it's a process leaving the b'org and I can only hope that this is a place of non-judgement for those who need it at a most critical time in their lives.

bc of the "recovery" is good class

"MY LIFE IS RUINED BECAUSE I WAS A WITNESS...

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