JW ended a relationship with me (page 2)

Vidiot

This guy has picked the WTS over you *.

Trust me, you're better off.

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* ...and he won't even have sex with the WT (unless he's got some kind of weird magazine-related fetish you never knew about)...

Thanks for all the feedback. I haven't been to a KH meeting. I think I just want to move on, but he still text like he cares and say he's praying all the time, etc. We only live 5 minutes from each other and there are two KH in this area. I dont know where he goes but after reading all the post and other information, this religion seems very disturbing. I thought they were nice people and I don't want to blanket judge anyone but he has some serious problems stemming from his upbringing.

Village Idiot

V1922, find the congregation he goes to, attend the meeting he's at and see how much/little he cares about you when you give him the fright of his life.

rebel8

Purge this man out of your heart and mind as soon as you can. It's a cult--a high control group that brainwashes people. That's why we call them the Borg. What kind of religion does this? Watch a movie about the Borg or watch the movie called The Village, and you'll see.

Clearly, he is not mentally free of the mind control. You can take comfort in the fact that you dodged a big bullet. This is an evil cult. Here's what happened to me, and others experienced horrible abuse of every kind.

"The big annual gathering" you mentioned is prime hunting grounds for single j-dubs, coincidentally.

truthseeker100

I agree with Rebel 100% I have two young daughters and if they were in your shoes I would tell them the same. If you go to a meeting the congregation will show what seems like friendly enthusiasm towards you (we call that love bombing) but its all phony. Just chalk it up to experience and move on. I would hate to see anyone succumb to the trickery of the Watchtower.

LisaRose

Many Jehovah's Witnesses are nice, as then tend to attract honest hearted people looking for a better life. Unfortunately they have been manipulated using cult mind control. Before you get further involved you owe it to yourself to learn more about the religion and cults and how they work. I suggest JW facts.com and howcultswork.com as a starting point.

The Watchtower Bible and Tract society, the legal entity behind Jehovah's Witnesses, is very dishonest about their history and practices. They have predicted the end of the world numerous times, most notably in 1914 and 1975. They then pretend they never predicted any such thing. JWs are told to not trust any source but them, they are especially told not to talk to former members, as we are "mentally diseased apostates". Our crime is not believing the Watchtower is God's only channel of communication for mankind, or doing things most people consider normal, like voting, saluting the flag or celebrating Christmas. We all have family and friends who will not talk to us because we left the religion.

We frequently see people post here in similar situations to you. JWs may leave the group and do things they are my allowed to while in the religion. They may fall in love and get married outside the religion. Unfortunately they often start feeling guilty and/or miss their family and friends and so go back as your boyfriend has. This is very hard on their marriage or relationship.

If you get married and have children, how will you feel about them being raised in the religion and not allowed to celebrate birthdays and Christmas? How will you feel about him going to five hours of services every week plus going out in the door to door work every Saturday? Every JW has an obligation to do these things. How will you feel about your spouse refusing a blood transfusion for himself or your children? What if you break up and he convinces your children to join the group? Marriage is hard enough without all these complicating factors, so think about what that might mean for you.

I know it must be heart breaking to have this happen, but be very careful before proceeding with a relationship with this man. Make sure you understand what you are getting into.

Judas Maccabee

V I am under 30 and soon, its highly probable we are going to get a divorce because I am tired of getting hen pecked! Are you mellow or super judgmental, do you allow your man after working sixty hours a week time to play video games without starting up fights because I don't feel like going out in service? She's allowed to miss meetings but if I miss them, I get this strange card pulled out "your weak" or "I never signed for marrying a inactive brother!" and she misses more than me. What if I have to move back in with my parents because her paranoia is growing since everyone is spreading rumors about my parents? My parents are the local apostates even though there's no evidence to prove it and it's getting old quickly!

There are no kids in our marriage and she's going to make me leave her because it's getting old living a lie! So sorry you are going through your situation, there's no reasoning to people who are filled with hate filled judgement!

edited She lied and said "I love kids and want lots!" and now she said she does not want any kids and hates them! What do I do since you are going through the same hell I am except mine does not like sex much even though I try everything to make her happy. I am no saint nor claim but I do try, she has checked out after a few years!

William Penwell

"We were so compatible."

Unless you are willing to convert to his religion it will never work. My experience is that a persons belief is very important and if you don't share that with the other person or they accept you for who you are it will never work.

rebel8

"We were so compatible"--you thought so, based on the persona he presented to you, which was not honest.

berrygerry

I dont know where he goes but after reading all the post and other information, this religion seems very disturbing. I thought they were nice people and I don't want to blanket judge anyone but he has some serious problems stemming from his upbringing.

After Scientology, this is the worst cult on the planets (Earth and Xenu).

This religion messes up virtually all of its members.

http://www.jwfacts.com/watchtower/mental-issues.php

Consider yourself lucky that you did not marry a Dub, and especially have children together.

JW ended a relationship with me

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