I remember from my time as a JW that there was an effort to portray ourselves
as better than the "world". More loving, more caring, more family oriented. Perhaps
Bay's frustration is that while it is quite obvious to many that those who follow the W are no better than
those that don't, JWs don't seem willing to acknowlege this?
Growing up in the KH, I was always taught that we were somehow better, cleaner than the rest.
The reality of it was that there was molestation, fornication, adultery, drug use, domestic violence, thieves, lack of compassion and love, etc. in the hall.
And it does get annoying for someone to brag of their organization's moral superiority when this stuff
goes on and no, not always are the offenders DF'd.
I know that some may not agree with or understand how Bay feels, (hey, I may have gotten it wrong myself....)
If I did get your meaning right Bay, believe me, I can sympathize with what you're feeling....