I need HELP!!!!

by asortafairytale 14 Replies latest jw experiences

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  A Paduan

  Ask her why she is scared of God, and does she think it is reasonable that she should be, or that you should be . And who appointed jws as God? They did, and she does - I don't - I've listened to the speak and I didn't hear any God.

  There's nothing to fear of them, which for those who don't get that, there is even proof - " when a prophet speaks in the name of the LORD, if the word does not come to pass or come true, that is a word which the LORD has not spoken; the prophet has spoken it presumptuously, you need not be afraid of him. [Deut.]

  They have no truth other than a text that was 'borrowed' from catholics et al. - their very name is a catholic invention. She has appointed them to be God because she has submitted to the punishment that they have decreed - you on the other hand don't - so what was it that she did?

  They don't have fore-giveness, which is why you have to prove yourself to them. She's been looking to the wrong people.

  paduan

  Edited by - a paduan on 31 October 2002 19:25:6
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  asortafairytale

  Thank you all for your advice; I will definitely take it to heart, and put it in practice.

  LyinEyes: OMG, your story is so eerily similar to my own. And what happened to your mother is exactly what I am terrified of with mine.

  I can't stop myself from being PISSED OFF at those JWs today.
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  LyinEyes

  I guess I could sense your helpless feeling with your mom. I just want you to do all you can, it is hard to live with yourself , because no one told you , I would have never thought my mom would have ended it like she did. But then again I was an 18 yr old girl.......... now I know, and I want other women to hold on to their moms if it takes all of their energies and life force. You just can't image what my life is missing since my mom is gone. I can never get the years back, when I need her she can't reach me now. I would do anyting to see her smile , hear her laugh and see her be independant from any man, any manmade crap organization. Feel free to tell her my story, dont tell her I am d/a and an apostate right now,,,,,,, do it to save her, then tell her later. She will see it then. Best of luck, pleas email me andlet me know how things are going. You will be in my thoughts and prayers......dede
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  spring

  Hi dear asortafairytale,

  I come from war stricken country. I saw there a lot of cruelty and human suffering. I asked myself why all these things happen? This experience changed my opinion about world we live in. I searched for God and answers he can only answer. I never read Bible neither we had it available in socialistic country. However, I always believed there is a God and there is Jesus Christ. One of my relatives brought me some magazines of Jehovah' Witnesses and I thought that they answered many of my questions. I guess I was an easy target then because I had little experience with Christian teachings and Bible. In meantime I moved to America to find a better life here. I always thought it is my obligation toward God to go to Jehovah's Witness congragation. I thought they will teach me right and offer me some kind of spiritual shelter from the suffering of this world. However, I soon found out from couple of unpleasant incidents that how they represent themselves in magazines and reality are two different things. I was studying Bible with two women from the congragation. When I started to go to the meetings I was suprised by the behavior of some of the members there. I found out in the way how they treated me that they are NOT true Christians and Jehova's people as they label themeselves. They were very judmental, snoby, mocking, hypocrites, very controlling and unforgiving. Even though my moral standards were high (I came from very patriarchal country) they always found some flaws in me. I asked myself are those qualities they showed me realy fruits of the Holy Spirit? God is a loving spirit and forgiving nothing like JW's. I had to leave them before my baptism. I couldn't stand their controlling attitude and hypocrasy anymore. I felt deeply depressed and abandoned by God. I tried a suicide which was a big mistake. Everybody in the hospital wondered how I survived. I think God was at my side. Still I feel uncomfortable when I think about JW's. Sometimes I even think that God does't love me anymore even though I love him with all my heart. I would like your mother to understand that God doesn't have anything to do with JW. She has a wounded heart because many teachings of JW's program person to feel abandoned by God and that she doesn't have alternative choice. Bible was not written for the JW's but for all people of the good will who respect and love Jesus Christ and God. Satan want us to think that God is unforgiving and cruel as JW's are.

  Edited by - spring on 21 November 2002 10:40:36
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  Solace

  Im sorry I didnt see your thread earlier.

  My mother is similar. She remained single for years after my father left because the society wouldnt allow her scriptural freedom. She would have been disfellowshipped if she were to remarry. We grew up very poor. She was depressed and many times became inactive. She could never meet the constant demands for service and meeting attendance. I remember her crying constantly, once grabbing a knife out of the drawer but my grandmother stopped her from hurting herself. The society finally approved her freedom after she showed proof that my father had been with another woman. The proof was his daughter who was only one year younger than me, I think I was about 10 or so by then. My mother married the first man who asked her because she felt so alone. He turned out to be an abusive alcholic and the congregation did nothing to help her. She reported him to the elders but as soon as he agreed to pray about it and study "again" they said "Jehovah will handle it."

  Well, she is still waiting for Jehovah to handle it, still being abused and still blaming herself. She insists that she is being punished for not being the perfect witness.

  I have tried everything to help her and nothing works. She is so fully brainwashed, Im beginning to think she would never have her mind back unless she was to start from scratch after having amnesia.

  Edited by - heaven on 20 November 2002 18:28:0