The other day I called an elder and explained some of his shortcomings and how they had had a negative impact on my family. He had little to say and did dispute what I had to say.
Yesterday we received flowers and a card, with an APOLOGY! He acknowedged he had acted poorly, partly because of issues in his own life, and was very sorry.
So now I feel just a teensy bit bad about the whole deal. Not that I am letting him off the hook, everything I said to him was true. If he was unable to help us, he should have talked to the PO and handed some of his responsibilities. But at least he is not the complete jerk I considered him to be.
But I ain't changing my handle!