That is a good post metatron. Too bad so many JW parents realize the truth of this when it is too late.
It is easy to blame the kids and they do have a measure of responsibility for their actions. But at some point when many follow the Society's advice on family life but cannot seem to turn out "ideal" children, then you have to start looking at whether that advice is really all it's cracked up to be.
It would seem the more "spiritual" the parents are and the more they endeavor to follow WT suggestions, the worse off their families turn out to be. In the short term their children are on stage giving experiences and everyone is wearing their plastic smiles and all seems good. In the long run, the marriage is in trouble and the kids are out of the "truth".
Path