I thought about this tonite, I was out on the town with my husband, trying to forget about the week I had of being sick. Trying to not think about my 3 kids problems they all have,,,,,,,,like who gets to do what this weekend and who's turn it is to call the radio. etc. etc. Just trying to unwind a bit. The lights are flashing and the music is pounding, I am even laughing at some drunk guy on the dance floor doing his best John Travolta imitation. Somehow thru this all, I still think of what this last year has been like for me. Realizing I am an Ex JW. I still dream about going to assemblies and still see some of my old bookbags and my faithful ole bible lying around. It is times like this I think of all the time I wasted being a jw and how much I put into it. When I see people dancing to music I should have danced to years ago, I think how much being a JW robbed me of. When I think of the future I think of how being a JW for so long, will always make me doubt, and will I ever have faith again.
I guess I am just relating how I feel to see if others who are on the new end of leaving the JW's , feel the same way I do. It seems that more than several times a day, I think of my old JW life. I wonder if in the years to come will it always be so consuming in my mind? Will I ever see myself as anything but an ExJW? Since I was raised since a child in it, and just left JW last year, that is 35 yrs of being this way, I think it may take more time than I thought to see myself as anything eles.
I am not complaining or wishing it to all go away, I know I have to accept this and deal with it. I have so many questions that need to be answered , or addressed anyway, even thou I may never know the answer. I often wonder what it is like to be a non believer, or someone who had a life before being a JW. Sometimes I just get so tired of thinking about God, about the WT, about life, about death, about it all. Even thou I am tired of thinking of it all, it never goes away, the thoughts seem to come and go as they please even when I try to ignore them. Do any of you go thru this too? Especially those who are fresh out of leaving the JW?