by JH 29 Replies latest jw friends
Good subject . When I saw it I wondered how many would really be truthful.
I think you can know a lot of people and have contact with a lot of people..and stll not have any "Friends". ...
Snoozy....
Edited by - Golden Girl on 16 November 2002 21:30:32
JH, I really don't understand the last thing that you wrote. Are you saying that nasty people have friends and nice people don't? That has not been my experience. You also said that people make friends like themselves, even if they are evil. Well, I guess so. You could also say that people make friends, even if they are saintly. I think the same logic does apply.
i think due to the great loss of family, friends, children, home, etc, upon leaving the jw's, i dont seek many friendships, as i think the fear of the pain of loss again would be far too much for me.
btw, vancouver here, which part of canada are you settled in?
orbison
I have tons of people I know, and who know me pretty well. However I only have a handful of real friends and that suits me fine.
Hummmm...I wonder if "Birds of a feather..flock together?"
Evil people pick evil friends and nice people pick nice friends?
Did you ever notice that those that have the most in common seem to pair off?
I wonder if that is really true? Could be..?..
Snoozy....
larc, read proverbs 14;20
My former husband always told me that by the time we die, hopefully at an older age, you can count you're true friends on one hand...and the older I get the more I see that happening with many others as well.
"Friends" come from unexpected sources sometimes. I've been hurt the worst by some I felt a great bonding towards, and yet today I'd call upon those same one's in a crisis because they have accepted me, too. It's weird really how friendships function.
Then there are those who in the long run are just to irresponsible financially and I prefer no further association with them. We're not mean towards each other or any such thing, it's just that once people show me how they are financial flakes that look for a way out of their obligation(s) - well, I no longer seek their friendship.
And the sadest of all for me is how I hurt my first real true friend. It took almost 20 years for us to communicate and I didn't do a very good job of making amends. After all that time I still could not tell her how I'd always looked upon her as such an intelligent person while my life was taking a steady downhill run. Guess it was some left over shame of mine.
I've thought of that gal many times and I'm comfortable just letting sleeping dogs lie. But I also know she, too, remembers some wild and crazy times we had together so it's ok. Yeah, friends. I chose them differently in my aging years then I did before. Although they generally turn out to be some of the craziest in the bunch.
Hey, that makes me a tad crazy, too....
Thanks for the topic. This time of year especially tends to remind us of friendship. I'm so excited about Christmas!!!!!!
granny..who finally got her gift ready for that secret person here.
Finn, you are so right on! about what you said about growing up JW. I really believe it's those experiences that helped me tremendously as I got older. This is a pathetic story, but true.
I used to go around saying how I hated children until one day while driving to work this man's face just popped into my mind's eye, for real, and very gently told me to stop talking like that. It wasn't frightening or any such thing, but it got my attention and has remained such all these many years.
At the time I was pretty stance A.A., for obvious reasons. A whole lot of childhood issues had to be dealt with, and of course alcohol aside, it came down to religious abuse. Looking back it made me sick to my soul thinking about the damage done an innocent child that had no recourse. I waited until turning 18 before leaving my mother's home...and of course that was difficult because she could have used the additional financial help. Nonetheless I began my journey that has done a turnabout so many times that it keeps life exciting.
Anyhow to make a long story longer I'm very much aware of children. It is true for me, these adults need to get some sort of recovery program going so that they might find some happiness before they die.
Children are our greatest resource. They're our future for christ sake, and adults can really screw em' up big time. So my husband and I prefer being the grandparently type that loves them all, as I'm sure others do.
Have a great holiday season. Hey, do you do volunteer work as a means of socializing? It can be a wonderful experience. Especially with the holiday season most any organization of any size can use extra help. Let me know more about you. thanks.
granny, who is long winded tonight...watch out world!!!!
When you stand out as being different to other children they treat you like a pariah. It really makes it hard to develope social skills and make close friends when you don't really know how to interact with people that were brought up in a normal environment.
I couldn't have said it better. I still have difficulty sometimes. Heh, sometimes I still don't get off color jokes.
Robyn
I bought a condo four years ago and I am very fortunate to have neighbors who are friendly, kind and who offer a helpful hand when needed. I used to live in the city and didn't know one of my neighbors. This is a refreshing change, not exactly Mayberry, but a good neighborhood, nonetheless.
I would say that I know many positive people (from the net and physically around me) who I consider friends.
