My first real SHUN

new boy

Well last week I got my first real shun. Most the time it would be people I know, they would just look away or pretend I wasn't there, you know not really a person anymore.

Last week it happen, this time with someone who was one of my BEST friends. I when to bethel with him, I have known him for over 30 years. We even been on vacations together.

I got of my car and was walking to a restaurant. He pulled up and got out of his car, started walking to the same restaurant. He looked at me, are eyes locked. He turned around got back in his car and drove away.---------He wouldn't eat at the same restaurant as me!

I know many of you have much better storys of abuse then that.--------------Could you please share your storys.

freedom96

I think fear is a huge factor for some. They find themselves in a situation like you described, and what are they to do?

Others, have a snotty attitude that I think sucks, and who cares about them.

For still others, they still care/ love those who have left or kicked out, they just are controlled by the organization and are fearful of what they don't know.

shera

Oh,gezzzz thats sad.That must have hurt?I have my old freinds look at me like they never knew me,but I treat em the same as they treat me.Sometimes I will stand in the same grocery lane,they are in just to let them know,I don't care.I stand there with a smile on my face and they seem to be the ones more uncomfortable than me. heh

I know its harder for people who have family and been involved for many yrs(like I have said many times before)....I had it much easier than many people who have left.

Take care New Boy

pettygrudger

That must of really hurt newboy - I'm sorry you have to go through it too (sigh).

Mine story isn't as bad as yours - its just pretty sad. One of my best friends & I were in a couple of classes together, so of course we sat together. The day after my df'ing announcement (of which I went to) we both went to school and sat where we normally did. We took one look at each other and started bawling our eyes out, without saying a word. Teachers just did not know what to do with us that day.

JH

You will have to get used to it. If you are disfellowshiped, then they will all shun you. Maybe a few exceptions will nod when they see you, not more. If you are just inactive since a while, some will decide that you should be shunned, just because they dont see you any more at the hall. Some think that they are elders, and decide that you deserve the shunning thing.

shera

Thats sad Pettygrudger....

kelpie

(((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))

It is a horrible feeling of being shunned.. You are made to feel really low, like dirt and for nothing!!

It makes me furious!

Kelp (email me if you would like to talk)

jst2laws

Good to hear from you again NewBoy,

We are not even DF'd but are treated as if we are. We accept that. But when we saw one of our favorite families at a local eatery I really felt disfellowshipped. I approached my friend and told him I wanted to talk sometime. He knodded as if to say yes, but what now? His wife even waved at us later but we still have no contact. We are moving on with our spiritual lives but we still love these friends who do not speak to us now.

Jst2laws

onacruse

Keith, I got your voicemail last week, but it was on my cell phone that I now no longer use much. Also, my e-mail has changed.

Sorry I haven't gotten back to ya.

I'll e-mail you my new #'s.

Craig

jurs

Hi New Boy,

It gets easier !!! In time it will hurt less and less. I went to beauty school with a sister from my hall after I DA'd myself. Some sisters would come to the school to get their hair done by her. It depended on how close I was as to wether or not it bothered me. Now it doesn't bother me a bit. I see JW's from time to time at the store or out and about and I don't alter my course a bit. I haven't ever tried to say hi to see what reaction I might get . I am curious but not quite brave eneough to try that out.

jurs

My first real SHUN

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