One Helluva Surprise

by out4good3 15 Replies latest jw friends

  • out4good3
    out4good3

    So I'm having a get together for my family. The "pit" is going, the suds are flowing, and the sound from the TV permeates the air. I look over and I notice that I've carelessly left my laptop in a place where it's easily accessible. My JW (or so I thought) brother-in-law has it open and is wirelessly surfing the web. Now I'm thinking, I have all these anti-WT sites bookmarked, favorited, and loaded still in the address bar and I know he's looking them over. He exclaims to his hardcore, died-in-the-wool JW wife "Look, this site had Charles Taze Russells last will and testament posted." The Evil Internet Strike Again !!! My hardcore wife gives me the "evil" eye, as if there is going to be hell to pay when all the guests leave. I give her back the "eye" that says my laptop...MY BUSINESS !!!!! His hardcore JW wife moves in closer by his side to the laptop as if to monitor what sites he's going to. He's quietly surfing....his mood is changing.....he gets real quiet for the rest of the evening. He never shares anything else he's found with her so she's otherwise oblivious to what he's looking at. She's much too busy "bumping her gums". About an hour later I notice that he's turned the laptop off and moved it aside. Later, after eyeing me speechlessly for the rest of the night, he makes a little small talk with me before they leave, but mentions nothing about what I have no doubt, he saw.

    Now, to put this in perspective, I've heard this brother-in-law in casual conversation describe himself as agnostic. And I know from earlier conversations with him that 1975 is a very sore point for him but whenever this subject is brought up in familial WT discussions, the Hardcores dubs angrily shoot it down proclaiming that the Soceity never said such a thing. I remember being over his house one day and carefully questioning him about his and his wife's feelings about Dateline and the Soceity's stand on peadophiles (sp). I was feeling him out in preperation of breaking the UN scandal to him, but I didn't get the sense that he was ready to acknowledge that the Soceity is not the perfect organization it claims to be. His wife certainly was not. For the time being, I thought it best for me to keep my trap shut.

    Now I have IE set-up to delete the history file daily. I'd only used my laptop to check mail earlier in the day. So, I have a record of "EVERY" site he went to, but, I have to check it before midnight when it erases the history file and starts from scratch. After going to a few news sites he found is way to www.observer.org and perused through a few pages that dealt with the history of the organization and Russell in particular. He then made his way to information about the 1975 fiasco, the generation change, and how the WT dodged any responsibility for their speculating about these events and instead, blamed the fank and file members.

    Fast forward to the next day......

    I have a house full of guests. He pulls me aside for a little chat. I'm thinking, aawwwww shit here it comes....I hope he doesn't make me get "ig-nant" in hear.

    BIL:"That was a very interesting site, the observer, I plan on going back there again."

    ME SURPRISED AS HELL AND ALMOST SPEECHLESS:"You might not like what you see there. Most everything they say about the Soceity is authentic, can be verified, and not very flattering. You're gonna have to have an open mind and be able to take criticism about the Soceity if you plan on spending any time there."

    BIL:"Oh, I can do that. I consider myself dis-associated anyway."

    The vision of me picking myself off the floor flashes through my mind !!!!!

    ME SURPRISED AS HELL, TOTALLY SPEECHLESS AND STAMMERING AT THIS POINT:

    "Awwww......eerrrrrrmmmmmm.....you probably won't be able to share anything you see and learn with your wife. She most likely WILL NOT accept it and it may cause problems for you."

    BIL:"Oh, I plan on not putting the link in my favorites. I plan on hiding it deep in a file somewhere. I understand that I at this time can not share this with my wife. She will never accept anything negative about the Soceity."

    ME regaining my composure:"You know, I was trying to introduce you to this type of info about the Soceity some months ago, but I was unsure of where you stood mentally with the WT. I didn't want to cause any problems for you and I wasn't sure how you'll accept the information presented. There are other sites out there with authentic unbiased information that exposes the Soceity."

    I leave him with this statement hanging in the air. If he wants anymore information out of me right now, then he's going to have to specifically ask for it. Instead he changes the subject to something else. But, he's let the cat out the bag. I now know where he stands, but assess that he doesn't yet feel comfortable about discussing it further.

    I almost can't wait to visit him at his house to see if he really followed up on further going through the site. At that time, if he appears to be ready, I'll share more with him.

    But, today, I'm breathing one hell of a sigh of relief. It's been one hell of a weekend and ONE HELLUVA SURPRISE !!!!!!!!

  • PopeOfEruke
    PopeOfEruke

    Well, FMOB!!!

    Thats a good story!

    Pope

  • outbackaussie
    outbackaussie

    You kinda sense there is some soul-searching gonna happen over there :) Thanks for sharing.

  • Quotes
    Quotes

    Now that is what I call GREAT NEWS!!!!

    (Not to be confused with "Good News(TM)" which, surprisingly, is neither good, nor news).

  • TweetieBird
    TweetieBird

    >>"I leave him with this statement hanging in the air. If he wants anymore information out of me right now, then he's going to have to specifically ask for it. "

    Out, that's probably a wise thing for you to do. It's a long process for some to exit the cult, both physically and mentally. I had a similar experience with one of my niece's, who for a time confided in me that she had doubts, but she was reassimilated into the cult and doesn't associate with me anymore.

    I, too flip-flopped for a while. It's not something that you really want to accept when it's been your whole life. The alternative, at the time, looked grim (losing family and life-long friends). I think it's really hard on a person if their mate won't open their mind to the possibility of IT not being "the truth."

  • RunningMan
    RunningMan

    Well, the floodgates are now open, and the rest of the story pretty much writes itself.

    Once a person is willing to admit that the Society may not be perfect and is willing to accept outside information as factual, it is game over for WT mind control.

  • pettygrudger
    pettygrudger

    Have to agree with Tweetie Bird - its extremely difficult when one first leaves, and its probably "best" to let them find all their information to an extent on their own. So many levels emotionally & mentally when untangling from this sect, and I would surmise that most would still hold "a slight grudge" towards the ones who showed them the "light" (at least for a time). Its a hard thing to let go of - deep founded beliefs.

  • Granny Linda
    Granny Linda

    I loved your story. You write pretty good, too.

    What brought me to these type forums was a fence-riding elder sister who expressed some doubts - after nearly 8 years of no contact with each other. Years of self imposed neurosis because of this religion, but she just can't let it go totally. I'm sure much of it is probably due to the shunning thing. My goodness, she has witnessed for years how it works for me and probably has no desire to lose that connection with the rest of the family.

    Anyhow, lets do hope your brother-in-law continues his searching, eh. Really no one can do this for anyone else. In the end it is a very personal decision. It's just that some are more open to honest inquiry...even at that, there are no guarantees.

    Congratulations on keeping your mouth in check I've always had a problem with my mouth overloading my brain. But, I am getting better with age.

    Have a wonderful holiday season.... and do keep us posted, please.

    granny

  • Hmmm
    Hmmm

    Soooooo, the old "accidentally left my laptop out and turned on" trick. Gets 'em every time!

    Good news, O4G

    Edited by - hmmm on 26 November 2002 10:19:34

  • LB
    LB

    Good move going slow with him. But he's on his way out regardless. It's nice seeing someone open their eyes. I hope their marriage is strong.

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