Love problems... again

Ardilla

Hi everyone!

I'm here posting something about a love problem again...

Maybe you remember my crazy adventure I'd with a guy that I met at Internet. Well I think that is in the past, but of course it hearts me a lot... (http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.aspx?id=40394&site=3)

Trying to find someone else I Iooked at the same web page where I found the first guy. There was someone from Spain and I wrote him, just to have some fun, because he mention that he's only looking for sex in the reality and at Internet. I thought he's far away, I'm just going to play.

Well we started to talk in the messenger. We had cibersex. I told him I had that pity experience with the another guy. He said he was a stupid. The problem began when for my sorprize he told me that I'm speciall, I'm the best thing that could happen to him, that he loved me, that his friend told me he looks in love and that when he had sex with a women he imagined that I was that women. I really felt that I liked him, but because of my recently experience I didn't know if he's telling me the truth. I was thinking inviting him to come to Chile, but it's high risk because I don't really know that guy. Well I had an idea to register in the that web page with another women profile and send him a message to see what he says. Well he didn't answer. Yesterday I saw him in the messenger and I talked him but he didn't answer me. So I sent a email with an apologies, not saying what I've done, but just imaging why he was angry. He didn't answer me yet. I tried to call him, but he wasn't available on the movil phone.

Please I need your advice. Thanks again.

Ardilla

Incense_and_Peppermints

when you met him, this guy said:

he's only looking for sex in the reality and at Internet

i wouldn't waste another microsecond on this creep.

ardilla, you seem to be a sweet but confused person. you appear to be searching for love, and that's an admirable quest. but don't let anyone else give you a lousy substitue--- hold out for the real thing. these creeps will just break your heart,a nd it doesn't deserve to be broken by a guy like that.

(((ardilla)))

Jesika

he's only looking for sex in the reality and at Intenet.

Sweetheart, please remember how the last guy treated you. You are leaving yourself open for this to happen again.

If you want to meet someone so bad, go to a club, library, or somewhere that you can meet the person face to face and be able to judge someone by the way they are in person. People on the internet can be whoever they want, and that can be VERY dangerous.

He has already said he loved you----------but yet he is having sex with another women----thinking in his mind it is you??????????? Give me a freakin break!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is full of CRAP!!!!!!!!!!

If you wanna play, then play. Playing doesn't involve exchanging #'s or saying I love you!!!!!

Put the keyboard down, back away from the computer and look at this logically!!!!!!!!!!

Leave this alone, so what he is mad! AND??????????????????????? He is nobody, and if he really loved you he wouldn't be having sex with someone else if he really felt that he loved you.

Men will tell women they love them to get what they want from them, whether it be sex, money, or someone to leech off of. Most women want to be loved so bad, they will believe any a$$hole that says it. Don't be fooled, and try and focus on loving yourself first k?

You have my email addy, please use it.

I love you and worry about you. If you read what you wrote about the last guy, and compare it to what you are writting about this one you will see alot of the same behavior. Both are not worth it, trust me.

Did you ever tell your brother about the other guy???

Love ya,

Jesika

Yerusalyim

Adrilla,

OK, I've done the cybersex thing a few times, so I won't critisize that. However, the folks you cyber with aren't the folks you wanna have a REAL relationship with, sorry! I do know more than one person who has met their significant other on line and it's worked out well for them, but I'd just be REAL leery of having a real-life relationship with a cyber friend.

Just my two cents worth.

jgnat

Jesika, you might be the perfect person to talk to this girl. In ALL of her posts, she is a walking doormat, waiting to be stepped on. Also, she makes no distinction between sex and love. The tone of her posts and chat makes me think she is on the hunt for another predator. Methinks I smell a walking victim with a past. Or an undercover sex crimes cop.

Robdar

Oh God, not more drama. Why do you keep posting these awful stories? Do you know how this makes you look? Or is any attention better than no attention?

Obviously you haven't paid attention to the advice that we have given you in your other "love problems" threads, or you wouldn't be here pestering us again for more help.

Oh, BTW, your English and sentence structure have gotten much better. I wonder why.

Robyn

Edited by - robdar on 2 December 2002 15:8:5

Ardilla

Thanks of your advices! I really appreciate it.

Well I think I'm running into the same situation because maybe I'm too desesparate to find love, after waiting it for 28 years... In the one hand the reason of being so restrict in the organization and the another to have low selfesteem, I recognize it. (I wasn't a predator victim) And I trying to follow your advices, for example I run away from the married guy... I had to ask for advice before I met the guy I spent the night with... But in this case, about the spanish guy, is ther any posibility that he's being honest with me???

Jesika, I sent a email to you I think a week, did you got it?

Ardilla

Incense_and_Peppermints

But in this case, about the spanish guy, is ther any posibility that he's being honest with me???

anything's possible. but in this case it is very unlikely. he's saying what he knows you want to hear.

you can ask for all the advice in the world, but we can't read your emails from him and we haven't talked to him so only you can answer that question. try not to let your loneliness cloud your judgement - try to look at him in the cold light of day. if he is not answering your emails or phone calls, he is blowing you off, plain and simple. walk away before you lose yourself entirely. good luck.

Being smart about online relationships

Some tips for dealing with the humans you meet online.

Not everyone on the Net will share your values or your sensitivities. Check out newsgroups and mailing lists before you join them. Some newsgroups permit flames (verbal abuse); some permit rugged, direct interchanges that dont cross over into flaming; some require polite, considerate exchanges. Choose the groups where you feel comfortable.

If you frequent chat rooms, keep in mind that its possible to develop very strong relationships with people online, relationships that are different in quality and character from anything youve experienced offline. The anonymity of the Net lets you judge and be judged on factors other than race, age, sex, disability and so on. That can be very intoxicating. Beware this intoxication.

The anonymity of the Net also encourages deception. People online frequently lie about their identity (around 60% according to one recent poll). This goes way beyond giving a false name to go with an online ID. The Net is also littered with people who have spent a very long time getting to know someone intimately online only to find theyve been misled. There are three huge things missing from online relationships: physical presence, social context, and everyday experience. The person you get to know online is not the complete picture: remember this before offering your personal details, your money, your heart, or your life.

Turn the computer off. Look around and notice who and what you have in your life offline.

ApagaLaLuz

Ardilla dear...... NO!

There is no chance in hell that he is being honest with you. May I suggest perhaps looking for 'love' somewhere else. The internet is a very difficult place to carry on a serious, and honest relationship. I think you should listen to Jesika's advice 100%

I gotta agree with you on this Jesika... you go girl.

imanaliento

you guys need to read her other posts, this seems to be the only subject she comes up with.

can't you find something better to do Ardilla?

Love problems... again

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