What Did You Give Up To Be A Jehovah's Witness?

by minimus 32 Replies latest jw friends

  • Vee
    Vee

    I could probably come up with a whole lot of things that my parents forfeited on my behalf when they decided the best thing they could do for me would be to raise me in the borg from 2y/o, but I don't know if I want.

    Alls I do know, is that from the point I decided to leave the borg I knew that whatever I have made of my life, my thoughts, opinions, successes from that point on were all of my own accord. Although I do get down when I see that I have lost so much time and have been set back many years in ways like personal development, education and just the "normal" fascets of life that most take for granted, I feel an incredible sense of pride and achievement that I have pretty much always done it on my own. As crazy as it sounds I feel as though I may almost be a more rounded person for being successfully on the way to throwing off the twisted miserable repressive upbringing that I had. As for loosing my family, well I know now that I never really had them in the unconditional sense.

    What I do more than anything in hindsight (not that a 2y/o is blessed with looking back in hindsight) is that I was forced to live in fear for so long and was denied the Mental Freedom and peace to just be myself, the individual that I was born. I sat in judgement of myself for so long about things which were nothing, things healthy teenagers go through (although there is no doubt that many of the things JW teenagers do are simply because of a lack of education or naiivety, repression or rebellion).

    So for me as hard as it is not to look back in anger, I am trying to stay as focused as possible on the future and what I build for myself.

    Luv V**

  • Vee
    Vee

    I could probably come up with a whole lot of things that my parents forfeited on my behalf when they decided the best thing they could do for me would be to raise me in the borg from 2y/o, but I don't know if I want.

    Alls I do know, is that from the point I decided to leave the borg I knew that whatever I have made of my life, my thoughts, opinions, successes from that point on were all of my own accord. Although I do get down when I see that I have lost so much time and have been set back many years in ways like personal development, education and just the "normal" fascets of life that most take for granted, I feel an incredible sense of pride and achievement that I have pretty much always done it on my own. As crazy as it sounds I feel as though I may almost be a more rounded person for being successfully on the way to throwing off the twisted miserable repressive upbringing that I had. As for loosing my family, well I know now that I never really had them in the unconditional sense.

    What I do more than anything in hindsight (not that a 2y/o is blessed with looking back in hindsight) is that I was forced to live in fear for so long and was denied the Mental Freedom and peace to just be myself, the individual that I was born. I sat in judgement of myself for so long about things which were nothing, things healthy teenagers go through (although there is no doubt that many of the things JW teenagers do are simply because of a lack of education or naiivety, repression or rebellion).

    So for me as hard as it is not to look back in anger, I am trying to stay as focused as possible on the future and what I build for myself. Luv V**

  • Windchaser
    Windchaser

    I gave up being around a guy that shared a lot of things in common with me, plus he gave his virginity to me. Even so, he called me after I got baptized and asked me out because it was my birthday. I thought that was extremely sweet, not only because he remembered my birthday but he wanted to see me again. It's amazing how quickly you can stifle a relationship by saying, "I can only date you if you have marriage in view." Hey, I wasn't about to tell him, "I can only date you if you become a jw."

  • Fire Dragon
    Fire Dragon

    I gave up my education, my job, my best friends, my family, and my music.

  • jws
    jws

    Being born into it, I didn't give up anything to become one. But I sure gained a lot by leaving.

  • bay64me
    bay64me

    My sense of humour, spontainety (spelt wrong), cheekiness, creativity, friends, decent clothes, good music, my husband and my life.

  • chachasmum
    chachasmum

    Cigarettes

    That's the only postive to come out of my seven years in the org.

  • Big Tex
    Big Tex

    A four year scholarship at Stanford.

    But then again, if I had gone I would not have met the love of my life. So I guess it balances out.

  • shera
    shera

    My "real" freinds.

    I had nice expensive clothes,I gave away

    I gave up education..(I did get my grade 12) I quite my job..went on welfare (a sister told me..use it,Jehovah put it there) For I could give to God's purpose....blahhhhhh( I work now)

    Gave up on holidays...I always loved them.Glad to have them back.

    I never left my family..well just on holidays.

    AND I have to say,track and field ,sports.

    Edited by - shera on 3 December 2002 21:27:18

  • minimus
    minimus

    I had a good friend who was my pioneer partner that gave up a lucrative sports scholarship so that he could preach before 1975 came! He was the best high school football player in the state! He had soooo many opportunities to be a great NFL player. But he truly believed that in 1975, the end was coming and he had to preach to everyone that he made a contact with. Everyone would try to convince him that he was throwing his life away......The last I heard, he was a milkman making deliveries to make ends meet.

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