Planning Funerals

IronGland

Have you guys thought about how your funeral or your parents funeral will be conducted? My parents are also XJW's with vague religious leanings but are not affiliated with any church. I'm agnostic myself. I've had friends die who weren't religious by any means but were at least members of a church so it was taken care of. Any thoughts on how you would like your final party conducted assuming you are not religious? For the record, neither myself nor anyone close to me is dying, it's just something i've been thinking of lately. If you're gonna respond to this, please give your real thoughts, not "you can just throw me in a ditch" or something like I would say.

Edited by - irongland on 5 December 2002 21:49:37

Gizmo

Well there are civil services....you get a guy from the funeral parlor to give a non religious eulogy....As for me frankly I don't care what they'd do with my body....I won't be around to see or hear anything they say i would finally be resting.

RubyTuesday

My mom wants no funeral and my funeral will be a big beach party ... they will throw me out to sea....seriously! When i was 12 and I went to my father's funeral it was the most morbid thing I have ever had to endure.

Utopian_Raindrops

Near where I live is a Serbian Monistary. I have to say those people know how to throw a funeral!

Since they believe that thier loved one is going on to a better life they have a huge party!! With drinking and dancing.... the music is awsome....mostly Gypsy style violins and the such. Everyone is in such a good mood and wear colorful clothes!! I realy just love it.

If I were to die and they insisted on doing something....that's what I would want.

Why should my fam be all sad and crying.....they should be able to move on and remeber me with a smile not a tear

Well....you got my 2 cents again....no refunds now

agape,

Utopian_Raindrops

bye bye 4 now

Undecided

I'll just leave it up to my wife and kids, It won't matter to me anyway.

Ken P.

Prisca

I don't care whether I'm buried or cremated, although cremation is the cheaper option, and I don't believe in spending money on funerals unecessarily. I mean, I'll be dead, so I won't really care.

One thing I would like, is for each person attending my funeral to be given a red rose. It will be a gift from me, to those left behind. The colour red to represent the passion that flowed through my blood. It is also the flower of love, for those I loved and lost. Plus, I see them being given a rose to be a reminder that life is for living, and I'd want everyone to celebrate the life I had, rather than the life I lost.

FrankyFourVests

At my funeral im putting one of those disposable cameras under each seat! Let the hilarity ensue!

blondie

Not to sound like a funeral salesperson, it is good to spell out in writing what your wishes are so that the loved ones that remain that you might care about know what to do and select without a lot of hassle from "well-meaning" friends and relatives. A legal document is as if you were right there. Since I have JW relatives that are very pushy, I have a will stating what I want (a cremation), no service unless my spouse wants it, and no JW service if he does (no problem there). It is good to consider the financial costs and make sure your loved one is not pressured into buying a $5,000 casket when a cremation is fine with you.

Blondie

TresHappy

I have definite wants: cremation - no viewing. I don't want people standing over what's left of me telling me I look good dead. I definitely want some sort of service. I always thought it would be neat to have the bagpipes played at my service. "Amazing Grace" is so beautiful on the bagpipes. Also I want my cremains stored in a niche.

Edited by - TresHappy on 6 December 2002 10:37:35

cruzanheart

Right on, Tres! I don't want anyone saying that the funeral director did my makeup better than I did. And I'd like my "service" to be at a cheerful pub-type place. I want each person to raise their glass and tell one thing that they remember about me. I would like it written down or preserved on videotape for my children so they can have stories about Mom from other people's perspectives. My ashes will probably be buried so the children will have someplace to visit, but if it was just me I'd have them scattered over the Caribbean Sea, so I could forever be a part of those glorious turquoise waters and dancing sunbeams.

However, I do intend to stay around a VERY long time, so don't nobody go making pub reservations just yet.

Nina

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