no troubles leaving the JW

Realist

do you know of former JW who were able to just leave the 'Truth' and not being severely effected by that move? are there any former JW who had no troubles after leaving?

Pathofthorns

60% leave with difficulty and the other 40% are lying

Path

We moved across country and just stopped going to meetings and we have had no problem. As far as being affected goes, you can't leave the organization without losing friends and sometimes family. Although, if they were REAL friends, they would not have dropped us when they knew we didn't go to meetings anymore. All friendship in the borg is conditional. There is always emotional damage in leaving.

Target

JT

it depends on ones situation-

in my exp the former jw who has no "Family" in wt are the ones who do best and esp if they move-

the worst are those with lots of family in and live in small commuinites"

Realist

i can imagine that if the family is stil in there it must be extremely hard...but even without that...how about loosing "paradise" so to speak?

gumby

We moved across country and just stopped going to meetings and we have had no problem. As far as being affected goes, you can't leave the organization without losing friends and sometimes family

Target answered well in my opinion. You need to move if you want to escape their "eye"

Some stay in the location and slowly "fade" knowing they will get a sheparding call. When they do get the call they answer vaguely, and answer with an excuse that doesn't implicate them. In time they will leave you alone. If enough time passes by they won't even bother you if you have a cigarette hanging from your lip......at least they won't handle it judicially.

I would move so you don't have to play the game with them. They make statements that "anyone can leave.....we won't stop you"......that's a bunch of crap. They may not physically stop you....but they will make your life hell if you vocalize your feelings, or join another church , the army or anything else they interpret as unfit for a Christian.

BTW......glad you see the Org. for what it is. Take care,

Gumby

onacruse

Also, it makes a difference if one was raised a JW or was converted.

For me, as one that was raised in it, it's like having lost a a part of my body. I've adjusted to losing a finger and knee, and am adjusting to losing my life-long belief structure, but there is still that consciousness of "I used to have something there, and now it's gone."

From the experiences I've read on this board, it seems like those that were converted don't necessarily have quite the same "sensation of loss."

Either way, it's damaging and leaves scars...

but well worth the sacrifice.

Craig

target

Craig:

I do beleive you are right. I joined the cult when I was 24 and stayed in for 30 years. I feel like I have "returned" to the life I had left behind. Whereas my son is 29 and was raised a JW as was his wife. They have stepped out into a whole new world and it has been a little scary for them. It is kind of like moving to another country and learning new customs and language. They aren't real comfortable with it yet. They are doing Christmas for the first time and don't seem real sure of themselves about it. I think it is harder when there is no past outside of the borg to use as a reference.

Target

Witch Child

Having no family, except an ex husband, in the borg meant that my post leaving has been pretty easy, xcept for dealing with my ex around the kids... It was the decision to leave that was hard. The second I was out I felt better.

I suppose there are a few people I miss from time to time, but I have plenty of real friends.

~Witch

JT

From the experiences I've read on this board, it seems like those that were converted don't necessarily have quite the same "sensation of loss."

we often laugh at micheal jackson for acting so childlish many times, but he acts like a child many times perhaps due to his weird life growing up as a child

and i agree if you were raised as a jw child YOU AND I HAVE LOST OUR CHILDHOOD folks who convert at 20-30-40- yrs of age did not-

only a jw child like myself and others know what it is like to have other children humilate you- the pain never goes away

my wife was a miltary child growing up so she got dogged real bad

think aboout this- my wife is in the 3rd grade living on a miltary base and can't salute the flag - yes a flag that EVERY SINGLE CHILD IN THAT ROOM KNOWS THIER DAD WILL DIE FOR-

SO a what type of mercy do you think Lady "C" got

even the teachers were the wives of miltary men- she got dogged all those years-

so for jw kids thier lives were destroyed

no troubles leaving the JW

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