Out of the woods, well, getting there

by joelbear 10 Replies latest jw friends

  • joelbear
    joelbear

    First, thanks for the dozens of you who sent me notes of encouragement. I've tried to answer as many as I could but I was overwhelmed by your kind thoughts.

    My suicidal thoughts have disappeared and have been gone for the past 2 weeks. I see my therapist again next week. He still thinks I need some stronger medication.

    I'm feeling pretty normal right now with some flare ups of panic during the day.

    Mental imbalances are not fun, thats for sure.

    Growing up in an environment where my mental problems were simply seen as rebelliousness didn't help.

    I'm trying to move onward toward not hating the JW or individual JW's or my family or friends that abandoned me.

    I know that this whole scenario over the last few weeks was caused by a friend who decided he would use "tough love" on me to "shock" me out of my depression. He basically told me he wanted me out of his life until I was better. That he was tired of being around me when I felt bad. This was a friend that I has moved to inner circle friend status and so this came as quite a shock. It has hurt for a long while but the hurt seems to be dissipating. Joining the hurt from so many others that I have loved and counted on.

    Oh well. Life goes on. I am teaching some of my friends to play bridge tonight and plan to get out and play tennis with another friend in a week or so. Bridge and Tennis are two of my passions. Its back to finding people who share my passions rather than sitting around and waiting for those around me to share them.

    Much much thanks to all who have written. May your love come back to you tenfold when it is needed.

    Hugs

    Joel

  • the dog
    the dog

    Hang in there JB!!

    the dog

  • Celia
    Celia

    Wonderful news Joel. Hope every day will be a little better.

  • acsot
    acsot

    Good for you Joel - be kind and patient with yourself - you deserve it!

  • Mulan
    Mulan

    Joel.............I am so happy you are feeling better. Have fun enjoying your passions. I used to LOVE tennis too.

  • ugg
    ugg

    joelbear,,,,,i am so glad you got help.....i was hoping so much that you would...you are not alone in this area by any means....

    keep up the good work,,,,keep taking your meds and seeing a therapist...it will make such a difference in your life....i am truly,,,truly,,,glad for you....

  • Francois
    Francois

    So Joel, you play bridge too? Man that's too good. I was hijacked when I was a pledge to play bridge when I was in college with three active brothers. On my first hand, I finessed the trump queen which was on my right from dummy to take a small slam. After that, no one would listen my protestations that I didn't know how to play - so it was sink or swim after that. I had to learn to play then. The only way I got to study was to stay away from the house.

  • ApagaLaLuz
    ApagaLaLuz

    Hey Joel, I can relate to where you are coming from. My ex JW sister is Manic Bi-Polar, and my jw cousin commited suicide 2 years ago. I think suicide is something that at one point in everyone's life, even if it is just for a brief moment, crosses our minds. I'm so glad you are finding help for it.

    Some people just need the extra help. I don't know you at all, but know that I will continue to think happy thoughts for you. My email is always open to anyone. I'm glad you were able to save yourself

    *muah*

  • LyinEyes
    LyinEyes

    That was very sweet Joel , I really needed to hear what you wrote today. I suffer from the ups and downs of life like everyone eles and sometimes no matter how hard I try to be upbeat and put things in proper perspective, I still want to just hide away.

    Your post helps me to think about things, and to continue to have the courage to face another day,, your attiutde is very postive even thou things are not 100% of what you want ,,,,,,,, I hope they will be soon.

    Hugssssssss, Dede

  • ChrisVance
    ChrisVance

    Joelbear, I know what you're saying about mental illness being blamed on rebelliousness. In high school I was accused of the same thing. I've also suffered suicidal thoughts a lot, although luckily they all but disappeared as soon as I left the borg. Not that i haven't suffered depression since then. It's just not been as severe. When I was in the borg I had to take 30mg of Prozac, which is a very high dose, in order to function. Now I'm down to 10mg. Hope you continue to feel better. Take care of yourself.

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